163: You Don't Have to Decide Forever, Just Decide Today

So just personally, what I've been leaning on is something I like to call anchor points.

And there's two kinds.

The first is internal.

It's the intention for how you decide you're going to feel this summer, not just how you hope things are going to go, but how you're choosing to feel inside no matter what happens.

For me, with all the transition, we move, kids are home.

Just buried my mom.

Everything feels so new right now.

So I decided Monday morning, it was the kids' first day home for the summer.

And I was like, before anything, I'm just going to soak in some gratitude.

I was laying there in bed with my eyes closed and I was counting my blessings and everything that felt like it was going right.

And I decided like, I will feel ease this summer.

What if this summer felt so flowy? What if it goes easier than I expected? And I just started to live in that.

I'm like, yeah, that's what I'm going to decide.

I'm going to decide to be joyful, present, flowy, easeful.

Help is going to flood to me in unexpected ways.

And so it shifted my what's called the reticular activating system.

in the brain, which is an amazing biohack of just the way that we're designed.

Our reticular activating system is basically whatever we're looking for, we'll find.

And so when we go through trauma, that typically gets a bit hijacked and we're constantly scanning for threat and it's exhausting.

But we can also decide, what if I start looking for ways that this is actually easier than I expected? make that decision on Monday morning.

And then by Wednesday, it flew out the window.

It was like a Tuesday night and I'm like, you're home with the kids tomorrow, right? Sebastian.

And he was like, wait, what? That's not what we talked about.

I'm like, that's exactly what we talked about.

I've got a full day.