Your Anxiety Toolkit - Practical Skills for Anxiety, Panic & Depression
May 20, 2026 · 32 min · 11 segments
In this episode, I sit down with Paul Gilmartin to talk about the hidden fear of "not being enough," how it quietly fuels anxiety and shame, and what actually helps us heal from it.
[gentle music] There is a fear that sits underneath almost every anxiety symptom I have ever seen.
It's not panic, it's not intrusive thoughts, and it's not the worry about health or relationships or whether you've locked the front door.
It is this: What if I'm not enough? What if, at the end of it all, I'm just fundamentally not enough, not as a partner, not as a parent, not as a person.
You build a case for your own self-worth, and it works, but just for a little while, and then the doubt comes right back, and this time louder.
He's the host of The Mental Illness Happy Hour, and someone who has sat with thousands of people in their darkest places, and we are going deep into this fear, where it comes from, and why trying to answer it keeps you stuck, and what actually moves the needle.
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[gentle music] There is a fear that sits underneath almost every anxiety symptom I have ever seen.
It's not panic, it's not intrusive thoughts, and it's not the worry about health or relationships or whether you've locked the front door.
It is this: What if I'm not enough? What if, at the end of it all, I'm just fundamentally not enough, not as a partner, not as a parent, not as a person.
You build a case for your own self-worth, and it works, but just for a little while, and then the doubt comes right back, and this time louder.
He's the host of The Mental Illness Happy Hour, and someone who has sat with thousands of people in their darkest places, and we are going deep into this fear, where it comes from, and why trying to answer it keeps you stuck, and what actually moves the needle.