154. Stop Making Everything Harder Than It Needs To Be

I am talking to those of you who have ever noticed that that they have this amazing ability to turn a very or relatively simple task into something massively huge.

Or maybe you are somebody who takes what isn't necessarily a simple task, but is something that is, you know, routine, something that you do, you've done before, and yet every time you go to do it, you suddenly make it into this huge challenging like life or death scenario right or maybe it for you shows up as like making a decision and spending all this time going through what those options are and overthinking the different possibilities and the different outcomes, right? Researching every possible scenario.

And we tell ourselves when we're doing this, we tell ourselves, we believe that this is us working hard.

This is us working, you know, giving it our best and being productive and responsible.

And yet, I have experienced, learned, and I coach lots of women who have experienced and discovered that they have actually been making things way harder than they need to be.

Okay.

Now, If you are listening to this, you could be somebody who has been doing this and you didn't even realize that this is what was happening because for a very long time, that was me.

I took everything very, very seriously.

And it was, you know, every project or report or session note was you know, gonna, in my mind, I didn't realize that, but it was like, make or break, I would put my all into it, not realizing that it wasn't necessary, that it wasn't necessarily even that it wasn't necessary, that it wasn't always helpful to do that, or productive or beneficial.

And it took me a really long time to discover that there were other options available.

Okay, so you might be somebody who has been doing this all along and just hasn't realized that it is something that you are choosing and that it is something that is holding you back.

Okay, then there may be some of you who are very well aware that this is happening.

You, you know, you take any task and make it way bigger than it needs to be, make it way more serious, more intense than it needs to be, you're aware of it.

You just don't know why you do it and you don't know how to do it differently.

You don't know what else to do, right? So either way, whichever category you fall into, And maybe you're in the third category where you don't do this.

I'm going to guess you aren't in that category if you're listening to this podcast episode.

But if you're sort of like, well, do I do that? Maybe just listen in to this episode and you know take a look at maybe your past your day or your past week or look ahead as you are approaching this day and look for ways that maybe some of this might be showing up for you okay so the reason why we're talking about this why this matters is because It's fairly obvious, right? But this pattern can result in burnout, massive chronic exhaustion, resentment, anxiety, overwhelm.

and can, like I said, lead to burnout where we are in this cycle of, okay, I gotta get through this day.

I gotta get through this project.

I just gotta get this thing done.

I gotta get this thing done.

We're sacrificing sleep.

We are sacrificing time with the people that we love, and we're sacrificing time on the things that we enjoy doing.

Our relationships are suffering as a result.

We're disappointing people.