How to CHANGE YOUR LIFE without hating it | S2E7

And I think, you know, we have to start somewhere, like, completely different.

You know, we have to start with, you know, whose life are you actually living? And something I heard a number of years ago, and it's always stuck with me really, really clear- clearly, nobody cares more about you than you.

And it might sound harsh initially, but I actually think it's incredibly liberating when you think about it.

Like, people, yes, of course, care about you.

I would like to think that your family care about you, your partner, you know, your friends.

You know, people love you.

You know, you know, people want the best for you.

But nobody is waking up every morning thinking about your potential.

You know, nobody is lying awake worrying, you know, that you're pursuing the thing that you've always wanted, or you're not pursuing it.

Nobody's going to come along and design your perfect life for you.

And ultimately, and this was a very wake-up moment for me years ago when I realized that nobody's coming to save you.

And I don't mean that, you know, like pessimistically.

I mean as, you know, one of the most important things you can understand.

Because if nobody is coming to save you, then you stop waiting.

You know, you stop waiting for the permission.

You stop waiting for somebody to believe in you.

You stop waiting for the stars to be, you know, aligned, and you start asking, "What do I actually want?" Not, "What does my partner want?" Not, "What does my family want?" Not, "What does my friends want?" Not what looks impressive on Instagram.

What do I want? And that's a much harder question, I believe, than people actually realize.

I believe your life has to be aligned with you.

I think a lot of people are changing their lives all the time, but they're changing them in the wrong direction.

They're climbing a ladder that's leaning against the wrong wall.

I think that's the first part.

You need to get your ladder against the right wall.

They're doing everything they're supposed, supposedly meant to do, and they're thinking, "Why am I still not happy?" If you've ever thought about it, like, maybe you're not happy because you're succeeding in the life you never actually chose, and that's where alignment comes in.

Alignment isn't sitting around waiting for the universe to deliver your dream life.

And I think, you know, we have to start somewhere, like, completely different.

You know, we have to start with, you know, whose life are you actually living? And something I heard a number of years ago, and it's always stuck with me really, really clear- clearly, nobody cares more about you than you.

And it might sound harsh initially, but I actually think it's incredibly liberating when you think about it.

Like, people, yes, of course, care about you.

I would like to think that your family care about you, your partner, you know, your friends.

You know, people love you.

You know, you know, people want the best for you.

But nobody is waking up every morning thinking about your potential.

You know, nobody is lying awake worrying, you know, that you're pursuing the thing that you've always wanted, or you're not pursuing it.

Nobody's going to come along and design your perfect life for you.

And ultimately, and this was a very wake-up moment for me years ago when I realized that nobody's coming to save you.

And I don't mean that, you know, like pessimistically.

I mean as, you know, one of the most important things you can understand.

Because if nobody is coming to save you, then you stop waiting.

You know, you stop waiting for the permission.

You stop waiting for somebody to believe in you.

You stop waiting for the stars to be, you know, aligned, and you start asking, "What do I actually want?" Not, "What does my partner want?" Not, "What does my family want?" Not, "What does my friends want?" Not what looks impressive on Instagram.

What do I want? And that's a much harder question, I believe, than people actually realize.

I believe your life has to be aligned with you.

I think a lot of people are changing their lives all the time, but they're changing them in the wrong direction.

They're climbing a ladder that's leaning against the wrong wall.

I think that's the first part.

You need to get your ladder against the right wall.

They're doing everything they're supposed, supposedly meant to do, and they're thinking, "Why am I still not happy?" If you've ever thought about it, like, maybe you're not happy because you're succeeding in the life you never actually chose, and that's where alignment comes in.

Alignment isn't sitting around waiting for the universe to deliver your dream life.