387. Baby Trapping - When a Pregnancy is Used as a Leash · WHEN DATING HURTS · Radar

How Reproductive Coercion Works4:15 – 8:00

Bill MitchellHost

4:15

Baby trapping is the phrase people use when one partner tries to create a pregnancy or claim one or continue one or end one in order to bind the other person.

Bill MitchellHost

4:29

Advocates and doctors usually say reproductive coercion.

Bill MitchellHost

4:33

It is a form of intimate partner violence.

Bill MitchellHost

4:36

The hotline has reported that about one in four people who contacted them described some version of it.

Bill MitchellHost

4:44

It is not only she got pregnant on purpose, it is also pressuring someone to conceive or interfering with contraception, refusing protection and calling it romance, lying about having had a vasectomy or being on the pill, forcing a pregnancy to continue, forcing a pregnancy to end, threatening to take a child or tell a family if you do not obey.

Bill MitchellHost

5:10

And then after the birth, it is a threatening custody every time you set a boundary.

Bill MitchellHost

5:16

A wanted child in a safe home is not what we're talking about.

Bill MitchellHost

5:20

We are talking about reproductive choices being stolen so one person can keep power.

Bill MitchellHost

5:27

Here is how the trap is set.

Bill MitchellHost

5:29

It often starts with a story that sounds like love.

Bill MitchellHost

5:33

Something like, I want to build a life with you.

Bill MitchellHost

5:36

A baby will settle us down.

Bill MitchellHost

5:39

If you leave, our child won't have a real family.

Bill MitchellHost

5:43

Pressure can be loud or can be a drip.

Bill MitchellHost

5:46

You're running out of time.

Bill MitchellHost

5:48

My mother wants grandkids.

Bill MitchellHost

5:50

If you really love me, you wouldn't need the pill.

Bill MitchellHost

5:53

It's guilt dressed up as destiny.

Bill MitchellHost

5:57

And then there is interference.

Bill MitchellHost

5:59

Hiding or throwing out birth control.

Bill MitchellHost

6:02

Breaking agreements about protection.

Bill MitchellHost

6:05

Withholding money so you cannot get to a clinic.

Bill MitchellHost

6:09

Monitoring your cycle, showing up at appointments and answering for you.

Bill MitchellHost

6:15

If your access to contraception is being blocked or watched or sabotaged, that is abuse.

Bill MitchellHost

6:23

You do not need a bruise to call it that.

How Reproductive Coercion Works4:15 – 8:00

Bill MitchellHost

4:15

Baby trapping is the phrase people use when one partner tries to create a pregnancy or claim one or continue one or end one in order to bind the other person.

Bill MitchellHost

4:29

Advocates and doctors usually say reproductive coercion.

Bill MitchellHost

4:33

It is a form of intimate partner violence.

Bill MitchellHost

4:36

The hotline has reported that about one in four people who contacted them described some version of it.

Bill MitchellHost

4:44

It is not only she got pregnant on purpose, it is also pressuring someone to conceive or interfering with contraception, refusing protection and calling it romance, lying about having had a vasectomy or being on the pill, forcing a pregnancy to continue, forcing a pregnancy to end, threatening to take a child or tell a family if you do not obey.

Bill MitchellHost

5:10

And then after the birth, it is a threatening custody every time you set a boundary.

Bill MitchellHost

5:16

A wanted child in a safe home is not what we're talking about.

Bill MitchellHost

5:20

We are talking about reproductive choices being stolen so one person can keep power.

Bill MitchellHost

5:27

Here is how the trap is set.

Bill MitchellHost

5:29

It often starts with a story that sounds like love.

Bill MitchellHost

5:33

Something like, I want to build a life with you.

Bill MitchellHost

5:36

A baby will settle us down.

Bill MitchellHost

5:39

If you leave, our child won't have a real family.

Bill MitchellHost

5:43

Pressure can be loud or can be a drip.

Bill MitchellHost

5:46

You're running out of time.

Bill MitchellHost

5:48

My mother wants grandkids.

Bill MitchellHost

5:50

If you really love me, you wouldn't need the pill.

Bill MitchellHost

5:53

It's guilt dressed up as destiny.

Bill MitchellHost

5:57

And then there is interference.

Bill MitchellHost

5:59

Hiding or throwing out birth control.

Bill MitchellHost

6:02

Breaking agreements about protection.

Bill MitchellHost

6:05

Withholding money so you cannot get to a clinic.

Bill MitchellHost

6:09

Monitoring your cycle, showing up at appointments and answering for you.

Bill MitchellHost

6:15

If your access to contraception is being blocked or watched or sabotaged, that is abuse.

Bill MitchellHost

6:23

You do not need a bruise to call it that.