The 3 Ways Men Initiate Sex That Almost Guarantee Rejection #430

This is just, you weren't taught this, so just see which one makes the most sense to you so you can learn and get out of this habit, okay? So the first one is the mumbler.

If you're the mumbler, you can't even say the word sex.

That's why you revert to saying things like, "Hey, you wanna..." And it trails off.

This communicates, "I'm nervous.

I'm not even sure I want this.

Please make this easy for me 'cause I can't even say this word." And maybe you can't even say it to yourself.

Maybe your relationship with sex is not so great.

You just get nervous when you think about it.

If that's the case, if you're the mumbler, just imagine how your woman is perceiving you from this place of hesitancy, nervousness, and uncertainty.

Do you think she feels connected in that moment? Do you think she feels any bit of sexual tension, any bit of desire? Okay, let's move on to the next one.

The logic man, number two.

If you're the logic man, you over-correct by being blunt.

So you'll straight up say, "Do you wanna have sex tonight?" And this communicates, "This is a task.

I'm checking off a box.

I'm not really with you, but I wanna do this thing." Checking this thing off your calendar, and you want her to help you check it off, right? Like, think of how this probably sounds like from her side when you're thinking of sex as a task because you're speaking of sex as a task.

Number three is the waiter.

If you initiate like the waiter, this means that you've been turned down enough times that you stopped initiating altogether, and now you wait for her, and resentment builds when she doesn't initiate.

You're just waiting around.

This communicates to her that you've lost hope, that it's not really worth it, that you're passive, that you're somewhat afraid to bring it up again.

Basically, you're in fear and maybe resentful of her that she knows, and now she knows sex creates resentment, so she doesn't even wanna touch sex because sex brings up resentment feelings.

So let's just, "Okay, if he doesn't initiate, we'll just, we'll stay away from that," are her thoughts probably.

Now, most men are some combination of all three of these things, but you may stick to one primarily.