Practice non-sexual touch (use these examples!) #437

So these are some examples of non-sexual affection that, like I said, you want to initiate at least two times a day.

And for context, I would say Andrew and I share about, I don't know, 10 of these a day minimum.

So two is not that much, right? But if you're not doing any, two is a good start.

Here we go.

Hand on her lower back when passing her, when you're behind her in the kitchen, you're trying to reach something, you're in a doorway.

This is, this is nice.

It's just a touch, right? It's just a touch.

You're, you're maybe behind her and instead of just grabbing something on the shelf when you're next to her, you just place a hand gently on her back and grab what you're trying to grab.

There's, for some reason, this feels so nice, and Andrew and I do this all the time.

It's-- it almost feels like whenever he passes me, I sort of lightly scrape his leg with my nails just really gently as I walk past him.

And it's just kind of me acknowledging, like, "I see you.

You're here.

I love you." And I just want him to feel loved and feel connected to me, and it helps me feel connected to him.

So it's just a very gentle, light touch, and it could last two seconds.

You know, this isn't something crazy.

But I think getting in the habit of doing this, just constantly initiating a touch with your partner in, like, a gentle, loving way is going to help your connection.

And this also doesn't make your mind race to, "Oh," like, "are we gonna have sex now?" You know? It's just you're training your body to get used to being around her and giving this gentle I see you acknowledgement to her.

Women love-- like, this matters, and you're gonna love it too.

You'll see.