Jun 2, 2026 · 15 min · 7 segments
When the sex you're having doesn't go according to plan, most men go quiet, spiral into "woe is me," and wait for their partner to reassure them, instead of taking the lead. In this episode, I break…
Stephanie GanowskiHostNo entities detected.
So what this looked like for where my client today, or at least one part, there's so many parts, but the one part was when he He noticed that a win he had yesterday was him being in a sex situation with his girlfriend where things didn't go exactly according to plan, right? You guys all have this way of how you want sex to go.
And when it doesn't go that way, your body or your mind might start going into panic mode, right? Or at least like, oh boy, this isn't ideal.
And instead of responding like he would have in the past, which was to go a little quiet, maybe say like, all right, let's forget it.
Instead, he showed up based on the man he told me he wants to show up as at the start of our sessions together.
Because I always have my clients get super clear on who is the man you want to be in this relationship.
Let's get super clear on him and how he would respond to all these different predicaments in your current situation that you want changed.
So what my client did was he showed up in this new way in response to this thing that did not go according to plan.
And because he showed up and said what he wanted to say, because he knew this version of him would say this and do this, he came across with this conviction in his tone with how he responded verbally and physically to his girlfriend.
He responded to the situation in a way where she was like, okay, yeah, like, let's do that.
So what this looked like for where my client today, or at least one part, there's so many parts, but the one part was when he He noticed that a win he had yesterday was him being in a sex situation with his girlfriend where things didn't go exactly according to plan, right? You guys all have this way of how you want sex to go.
And when it doesn't go that way, your body or your mind might start going into panic mode, right? Or at least like, oh boy, this isn't ideal.
And instead of responding like he would have in the past, which was to go a little quiet, maybe say like, all right, let's forget it.
Instead, he showed up based on the man he told me he wants to show up as at the start of our sessions together.
Because I always have my clients get super clear on who is the man you want to be in this relationship.
Let's get super clear on him and how he would respond to all these different predicaments in your current situation that you want changed.
So what my client did was he showed up in this new way in response to this thing that did not go according to plan.
And because he showed up and said what he wanted to say, because he knew this version of him would say this and do this, he came across with this conviction in his tone with how he responded verbally and physically to his girlfriend.
He responded to the situation in a way where she was like, okay, yeah, like, let's do that.
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