Bonus Episode | A Pregnancy Update Planning Our Second Home Birth

So for those of you that don't know, we are 26 weeks pregnant and a couple of days and it has just flown by.

And I think that's pretty common with second pregnancies, especially if you have a toddler that you are chasing around because you're spending all of your time kind of looking after them and thinking about being pregnant kind of goes on the back burner.

And every midwife visit I have, I say the same thing.

I kind of forget that I'm pregnant most of the time, which is you know, is a bit of a blessing in comparison to the first time around when I was working full time and you were overanalyzing every movement and feeling and thing that was happening.

Definitely been a very different second time around.

And so I have had a handful of questions come through.

So that's been really helpful.

Thank you.

And I've also had a handful of questions like from my real life that people have asked as well.

So one of the common ones that we both, Brett and I got is why we were choosing to go again so quickly.

So our little guy is 15 months old.

And so by the time this baby comes, there'll be about an 18 month age gap between them.

And the answer for us is really simple.

We've been trying to have babies for the better part of eight years.

And because of fertility issues, that just wasn't to be earlier on in our age gap for us.

So had our first or even our second little bub stuck, we may have thought about having a big age gap between kids later.

But unfortunately, it's taken so long for us to get to this point.

And, you know, we are on what people, I guess, would consider the older side of pregnancy.

That having a bigger age gap just really wasn't an option for us.

So for context, I got pregnant with Henley on our second transfer.

And I had just turned 40 and I gave birth to him like three weeks before my 41st birthday.

And this bub, we kind of weighed up our options and with IVF, it's kind of like a bit of Russian roulette, right? So we had one tested embryo left and I think we have about four or five untested embryos.

So with IVF, it could... have taken six goes so six months give or take or it could have happened first go and so we were kind of planning for a worst-case scenario and it taking time and if it happened quickly we were obviously prepared for that too so yeah our tested embryo worked first time so this was our third transfer and we are pregnant with this little bub and so I will be 42 when we have this baby and and I definitely don't feel my age and I don't feel that, and so people are often always surprised when they kind of hear our age.

But, yeah, you know, we just didn't have the luxury of time to wait two or three years to start trying for baby number two.

So, yeah, that's why we've gone again so quickly and very thankful that our transfer worked first go because I know how that is definitely not the case with IVF.

So for those of you that don't know, we are 26 weeks pregnant and a couple of days and it has just flown by.

And I think that's pretty common with second pregnancies, especially if you have a toddler that you are chasing around because you're spending all of your time kind of looking after them and thinking about being pregnant kind of goes on the back burner.

And every midwife visit I have, I say the same thing.

I kind of forget that I'm pregnant most of the time, which is you know, is a bit of a blessing in comparison to the first time around when I was working full time and you were overanalyzing every movement and feeling and thing that was happening.

Definitely been a very different second time around.

And so I have had a handful of questions come through.

So that's been really helpful.

Thank you.

And I've also had a handful of questions like from my real life that people have asked as well.

So one of the common ones that we both, Brett and I got is why we were choosing to go again so quickly.

So our little guy is 15 months old.

And so by the time this baby comes, there'll be about an 18 month age gap between them.

And the answer for us is really simple.

We've been trying to have babies for the better part of eight years.

And because of fertility issues, that just wasn't to be earlier on in our age gap for us.

So had our first or even our second little bub stuck, we may have thought about having a big age gap between kids later.

But unfortunately, it's taken so long for us to get to this point.

And, you know, we are on what people, I guess, would consider the older side of pregnancy.

That having a bigger age gap just really wasn't an option for us.

So for context, I got pregnant with Henley on our second transfer.

And I had just turned 40 and I gave birth to him like three weeks before my 41st birthday.

And this bub, we kind of weighed up our options and with IVF, it's kind of like a bit of Russian roulette, right? So we had one tested embryo left and I think we have about four or five untested embryos.

So with IVF, it could... have taken six goes so six months give or take or it could have happened first go and so we were kind of planning for a worst-case scenario and it taking time and if it happened quickly we were obviously prepared for that too so yeah our tested embryo worked first time so this was our third transfer and we are pregnant with this little bub and so I will be 42 when we have this baby and and I definitely don't feel my age and I don't feel that, and so people are often always surprised when they kind of hear our age.

But, yeah, you know, we just didn't have the luxury of time to wait two or three years to start trying for baby number two.

So, yeah, that's why we've gone again so quickly and very thankful that our transfer worked first go because I know how that is definitely not the case with IVF.