Ep. 38 What My Husband REALLY Thought About My Weight Gain

So how much would you say that you were influenced initially by societal beauty expectations?

Like I said, at first, and this is from my history before you, I was influenced like anybody else, I guess.

I'm Argentinian.

We pride ourselves in having the most beautiful women in the world.

One of the supermarket chains, when I was a kid, was giving out magnets.

And one of the magnets said, Argentinian women are the most beautiful in the world.

And this is like a supermarket chain.

So I was influenced as much as anybody else growing up there.

You had said that even in the beginning of us getting to know each other, it wasn't primarily physical.

And so you were saying that all of a sudden you shifted what you found attractive.

So all of a sudden the larger body became attractive, whereas before it wasn't because there was a...

Why do you think that is?

Let me put it this way, for example.

I feel like this will be a little bit easier to understand, kind of like the mental shift that happened within me at that time.

When we started dating and you were smaller, I felt some physical attraction.

Of course, that's not what our relationship was built on.

because we were online dating.

But then when your body started changing, there was a period of time, a couple of weeks, where my mindset kind of had to shift to be like, the body of this woman that I love is changing in this way.

I couldn't hold on in my mind to this idea of the body you had, because my mind would compare and be like, oh no you know like i don't i don't feel attraction towards this body i would feel attraction to that body but once i let go of this idea of like you have this body and i actually paid attention to the body you actually had then the attraction came back but that's kind of like the shift that i needed to make in my mind kind of letting go of the body you had in a way

And that's something that which is the struggle for women going through this.

So not only does the partner have the idea, but that is the big struggle is letting go of this attachment and the idea of what does it mean if I have this smaller body versus if I have this larger body? Now, it sounds like for you, you didn't have as much meaning attached to it.

No, no, no, no.

Like I said, my past relationships, because I dated women who were on both ends of the spectrum, I knew that the body didn't mean anything.

It didn't signify anything about the success of the relationship, that short relationship I had with with this model-like lady was just not a good relationship.

And I'm glad it was so short.