May 28, 2026 · 14 min · 8 segments
**Ever wished that other people’s comments about your body, your weight, or your choices would just roll off your back?** You tell yourself, *“I shouldn’t care what they think.”* But the moment a…
Something I notice that's really common among women who have had a history of dieting or disordered eating is that they tend to be more sensitive people, and that's not a bad thing.
They tend to be people who as children could really feel emotion more or could pick up the energy in the room or just know if somebody was saying something but they were really meaning something else.
Do you feel like you were somebody that, who would be called sensitive? Maybe that was used as a negative.
There's a lot of judgment and criticism and ideas of how people should or shouldn't be.
And when we grew up, depending on the environment and home that we were in and the beliefs that our caregivers held, we could have taken a lot of that on really personally and it could've felt like a threat.
We were taught w- in order to get what we want, we need to do it through punishment, and that is still very active today.
I mean, if you look at the very act of dieting and shrinking your body, it's a form of punishment.
We're being very hard on our bodies, but we're doing it because we believe that we're going to get something out of it that's going to be of benefit.
And so when that was used against me, I didn't really realize until older the impact that it had on me.
I noticed how in those moments my child mind had made this belief you're bad, you're wrong, you're not good enough for just being who you are.
That initial trauma response, it doesn't have to come just from physical punishment.
Even something that was unintentionally taken, uh, the wrong way, our little minds just can end up making meaning out of these things.
As adults, what we wanna do is start to notice where is the survival response negatively impacting our lives now.
This can show up a lot when we're exploring making peace with our bodies, because essentially what we're doing is saying, "I'm gonna go against the grain of the culture." And we know that in the survival instinct we wanna feel accepted by the tribe.
Something I notice that's really common among women who have had a history of dieting or disordered eating is that they tend to be more sensitive people, and that's not a bad thing.
They tend to be people who as children could really feel emotion more or could pick up the energy in the room or just know if somebody was saying something but they were really meaning something else.
Do you feel like you were somebody that, who would be called sensitive? Maybe that was used as a negative.
There's a lot of judgment and criticism and ideas of how people should or shouldn't be.
And when we grew up, depending on the environment and home that we were in and the beliefs that our caregivers held, we could have taken a lot of that on really personally and it could've felt like a threat.
We were taught w- in order to get what we want, we need to do it through punishment, and that is still very active today.
I mean, if you look at the very act of dieting and shrinking your body, it's a form of punishment.
We're being very hard on our bodies, but we're doing it because we believe that we're going to get something out of it that's going to be of benefit.
And so when that was used against me, I didn't really realize until older the impact that it had on me.
I noticed how in those moments my child mind had made this belief you're bad, you're wrong, you're not good enough for just being who you are.
That initial trauma response, it doesn't have to come just from physical punishment.
Even something that was unintentionally taken, uh, the wrong way, our little minds just can end up making meaning out of these things.
As adults, what we wanna do is start to notice where is the survival response negatively impacting our lives now.
This can show up a lot when we're exploring making peace with our bodies, because essentially what we're doing is saying, "I'm gonna go against the grain of the culture." And we know that in the survival instinct we wanna feel accepted by the tribe.
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