Transforming The Toddler Years- Parents and Educators Raising Calm, Connected, Capable Kids
Sep 17, 2026 · 43 min · 13 segments
**What happens when we stop seeing challenging behavior as a problem to fix and start seeing it as a developmental need to understand?** In this episode, Danielle—a mother, educator, and doctoral…
Danielle DushaneGuestI mean, I often say directly to a three-year-old, it's your job to try and see if I'll change my mind, right? It's my job to hold the boundary that I promised you I would keep.
And this is where The looking at it from their perspective to gauge our response is so key.
When you did observations and you were cataloging and grabbing all your data, did you immediately see a few people who were in the classroom and that you were like, they're naturally inclined this way.
And others who really wanted to, but found it much, much more challenging to make that transformation.

were raised, right? And our upbringing, our experiences, because subconsciously in the moment, that's what we pull from our experiences when working with kids, parenting, or educating young children, right? We pull from the knowledge that we have gained over our lifetime and apply it.

And I think that's where self-reflection and mindfulness can be really helpful in helping educators and parents examine their response and their triggers.

What happens for them when they see a child having you know, a meltdown or having a moment with big feelings and what does that bring up in themselves so that they can be aware of that and be in the moment and ready to help that child.
And it's, when you talk about expectations, you know, you and I are both former classroom teachers and former is the operative word there.
I mean, I often say directly to a three-year-old, it's your job to try and see if I'll change my mind, right? It's my job to hold the boundary that I promised you I would keep.
And this is where The looking at it from their perspective to gauge our response is so key.
When you did observations and you were cataloging and grabbing all your data, did you immediately see a few people who were in the classroom and that you were like, they're naturally inclined this way.
And others who really wanted to, but found it much, much more challenging to make that transformation.

were raised, right? And our upbringing, our experiences, because subconsciously in the moment, that's what we pull from our experiences when working with kids, parenting, or educating young children, right? We pull from the knowledge that we have gained over our lifetime and apply it.

And I think that's where self-reflection and mindfulness can be really helpful in helping educators and parents examine their response and their triggers.

What happens for them when they see a child having you know, a meltdown or having a moment with big feelings and what does that bring up in themselves so that they can be aware of that and be in the moment and ready to help that child.
And it's, when you talk about expectations, you know, you and I are both former classroom teachers and former is the operative word there.
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