16. Let’s Talk About Sex After Having a Baby: Part 2

Our last conversation about **sex after having a baby** sparked thousands of comments—and made us realize there was another side of the conversation we hadn't fully explored. In Part 2, we’re widening the lens to include both the **woman’s and the man’s experience of postpartum intimacy**. What happens when a woman is touched out, exhausted, healing from birth, navigating hormonal and neurological changes, and struggling to access her sexual self—while her partner may be craving physical connection and feeling rejected or forgotten? We talk about **postpartum sex, libido, matrescence, emotional connection, resentment, sexual desire, boundaries, touch, and the complicated transition into parenthood**. We explore why the same touch can feel loving to one person and violating to another, how couples can communicate their needs without making each other wrong, and what it means for both partners to take ownership of rebuilding intimacy. We also get into the dynamics that can develop around **chores, motherhood, “mothering” your husband, masculine and feminine polarity, and the ways resentment can affect sexual connection**. Ultimately, this isn't a conversation about who is right. It's about understanding that both people are going through a massive transition—and figuring out how to find your way back to each other. Because postpartum intimacy isn't necessarily about getting back to the sex you used to have. **It's about discovering intimacy, desire, and connection as the new versions of yourselves.** **In this episode of The Woman Within Podcast, we discuss:** - Sex after having a baby and why intimacy can change so dramatically - Postpartum libido and why desire may look different for women and men - Matrescence and the physical, hormonal, and neurological changes of motherhood - Why women can feel “touched out” while men may feel sexually disconnected - The difference between sexual touch and touch as an expression of love - Emotional connection as a pathway to physical intimacy - How sleep deprivation, stress, postpartum anxiety, and hypervigilance affect desire - Restraint, patience, and giving each other space during early parenthood - Finding other forms of physical intimacy when sex isn't available - Resentment, household responsibilities, and how “mothering” your partner can affect attraction - Taking ownership of your own desire and learning what helps you get back into your body - Letting go of expectations about who your partner used to be - Rebuilding intimacy and finding your way back to each other after having a baby - Why good sex isn't about looking sexy—it's about being embodied, connected, and present **New Episodes drop every Monday!** **Join our email list** to get reminders about new episodes and future offerings ⁠https://womanwithinpod.myflodesk.com/joinus⁠ **Follow us on Instagram** @womanwithinpod @nicole\_mejia @soulfully\_sarah\_stew If this episode resonates with you, **don't forget to like and subscribe.** *Thank you so much for listening!*