A woman can feel when your words and your motive don’t match.
And according to sexologist Coral Osborne, that disconnect matters far more than whether you know the right positions, techniques, or lines to say.
Coral joins me for a conversation about sexual honesty, desire, boundaries, aftercare, and one of the most important skills I didn’t learn until much later in life: attunement.
We talk about what Coral calls the “clean taker,” why hiding your sexual desire can actually make you feel less safe to a woman, and why great sex has far more to do with presence, communication, curiosity, and being able to handle the answer “no” than most men have been taught.
We also break down the RBDSMA framework, what aftercare actually looks like, why men need sexual boundaries too, and the difference between being sexually aggressive and being a grounded man who knows what he wants.
Better sex is part of the conversation.
But this is really about becoming a man who can tell the truth, pay attention, own his desires, respect someone else’s, and stay grounded regardless of the answer.
Want to train this with Coral and me?
36th Chamber Intensives:
https://traverboehm.com/36-intensive
36th Chamber Year-Long Program:
https://traverboehm.com/36
Chapters
00:00 Meet Coral Osborne
02:55 Why Traver Came Back to Sexuality
06:08 The Freedom on the Other Side of Shame
09:44 Sex Is More Than Sex
13:34 What Women Say They’re Missing
18:32 Being Safe AND Wild
23:20 When Your Words Don’t Match Your Motive
26:54 What Is a “Clean Taker”?
31:31 The RBDSMA Framework
35:37 Why Aftercare Matters
45:06 What Attunement Actually Means
49:54 What Great Sex Is Really Made Of
53:38 Men Need Boundaries Too
