Your Story Is BS (And It’s Costing You).

Think about this.

If you tell yourself you're not good at difficult conversations, then you're going to avoid having them.

And then because you avoid having them, you don't get much practice.

And then eventually you say, see, I'm just not good at having difficult conversations or I hate confrontation, which is something I hear a lot from business owners.

Now, that's how those stories become a lip.

And the stories then start to affect what we try.

And then what we try or don't try affects what we learn.

And then what we learn or don't learn can seem to confirm the story all over again.

So these stories don't just come from nowhere and I get it.

They can come from experiences that we've had, challenges in life, challenges in business, Things that people say to us, expectations that we pick up or roles that we've took on from when we were younger.

I get it.

Those experiences matter.

But they don't have to define who you are right now.

And they don't have to define every choice that you make or don't make right now.

You see, you can understand where the story comes from.

And then you can begin to ask, is this actually helping? Is it helping who I am right now? Now, it's not about pretending that everything's fine or just think positive.

It's about getting curious.

It's about stopping and asking and becoming aware of the pattern.

So instead of asking, like, what's wrong? Like, try asking different questions.

What am I telling myself about this? Is this actually a fact or, again, a story? What if I didn't actually treat this as a label or treat this as a fact? Because so often we attach labels to ourselves.

We just tell ourselves these things.

We just unconsciously adopt these things.

And a lot of times they're the things that's holding you back.

is what I like to say, they're the things that create the handbrake.

You're driving with a handbrake on.