EP159 Stop Waiting for Your Future Self. She’s Not Coming.

Send us Fan Mail **What if the woman you're waiting to be isn't coming?** **That isn’t because you're incapable of being her. Not at all.** **But because *you were never supposed to wait for her in the first place.*** **I'm recording this episode exhausted, emotional and still trying to process what happened last week at the very first *Be You Now,* my identity reinvention event for founders and business owners.** **Six months ago, I was still employed full-time, carrying huge responsibility in that role and preparing for surgery on an arm that had already been broken for 9 months.** **And on Friday, I stood on a stage in London at an event I'd created, teaching my own frameworks and intellectual property, surrounded by extraordinary speakers, partners and a room full of people who had trusted me enough to buy a ticket and be part of it.** **The really fucking mad part?** ***Be You Now went from launch to event in just over six weeks.*** **And somewhere in the aftermath, I realised something.** **I wasn't simply teaching identity reinvention on Friday. I was living and breathing it.** **Be You Now was one enormous Identity Experiment. And I was my own evidence.** ***The problem with Future Her*** **I love a bit of future-self work, don’t get me wrong.** **Visualisation. Rehearsal. Imagining the woman you want to be, the business you want to build and the life you want to live.** **But the problem is that we can make Future Her so damn separate from who we are now that she becomes another destination.** **When I earn more, I'll be her.** **When I'm more confident, I'll be her.** **When I've healed, I'll be her.** **When I've got the qualification, I'll be her.** **When somebody invites me onto the stage, I'll be her.** **When somebody else tells me I'm ready...** **Then…** **And meanwhile, we wait.** **But your Designed Future Self isn't going to ring your doorbell one random day next summer and announce that she's finally arrived.** **You don't arrive at an identity. You build one.** **And you build it through evidence.** **Friday became a living demonstration of that idea.** **Throughout Be You Now, we explored identity through health, success, nervous-system regulation, money, boundaries, visibility, business, self-recognition and the willingness to actually act on what we know.** **Because you can understand every single one of your patterns.** **And still keep doing the same fucking thing.** **Awareness isn't transformation until it becomes behaviour.** **Identity changes when you make a different decision.** **When you uphold a different standard.** **When you send the email.** **Say no.** **Say yes.** **Raise the price.** **Apply for the thing.** **Eat your fucking lunch.** **Let somebody help you.** **Or, apparently, create your first event in six bloody weeks.** **And apparently, I have another Identity Gap...** **Because I'm not teaching any of this from some imaginary identity mountaintop.** **Friday showed me my own next piece of work.** **Receiving. I explain my own gap in the episode!** ***So where is YOUR Identity Gap?*** **You probably already know a lot about the person you want to be.** **The question is, *where aren't you being them?*** **Maybe you want to lead like a CEO, but you're still operating like an overwhelmed employee.** **Maybe you want to be known, but you're hiding.** **Maybe you say you want wealth, but avoid your finances.** **Maybe you value your time but continually breach your own boundaries.** **Maybe your health is supposedly important while your body permanently gets whatever is left over.** **Maybe you know exactly what you want to do, but you're waiting for confidence before you'll let yourself do it.** **That's the gap.** **And that's where the work is.** ***The Identity EDIT*** **This is exactly why I've created The Identity EDIT, my new eight-week live identity reinvention programme.** **We're going to identify the biggest Identity Gap between who you know you want to be and how you're actually living now.** **Then we're going to close it.** **And importantly, The Identity EDIT isn't only about business.** **Your gap might be in your business, yes. But it could equally be in your health, relationships, money, confidence, boundaries, visibility, self-care or the thing you've been promising yourself you'll do for the last three years.** **Because you don't need another year of knowing who you could be.** **You need to start creating evidence of who you are.** **In this episode, you'll hear:** **Why Be You Now became my own real-time Identity Experiment** - **The danger of putting your future self permanently in the future** - **What I mean by the Identity Gap** - **Why awareness alone doesn't create transformation** - **How your standards and everyday behaviours reinforce identity** - **What Friday taught me about my own difficulty with receiving support** - **Why visibility is fundamentally an identity issue** - **What health, money, boundaries and business operations can reveal about who you believe you have to be** - **Why a wobble doesn't mean your new identity is wrong** - **How to create evidence rather than waiting for confidence** - **How The Identity EDIT will help you identify and close the biggest gap in your own life or business** **And perhaps most importantly: *Stop waiting for her.*** **She's not coming to rescue you.** **And that's fucking brilliant news. Because it means you don't have to wait.** **Be her now.** Join The Identity EDIT **If this episode has made you realise exactly where your Identity Gap is, The Identity EDIT is where we're going to work on closing it.** **Eight weeks. Real-life experiments. Real evidence. Real change.** **Because *you don't find yourself. You design her.*** **And you don't design her by describing her. *You design her by creating evidence.*** **🔥** DOWNLOAD **RESOURCES TO FUEL YOUR REINVENTION** **📲 FOLLOW on** Instagram **and** Facebook 📚 **EDIT YOUR LIFE: No BS Reinvention Journal on** Amazon **🩷**