Why Did Nobody tell me that all of me would change?

We knew motherhood would change our lives. We knew there would be less sleep, more responsibility and a tiny human who suddenly needed us for… well, everything. But nobody really prepared us for how much we would change too. In episode two of Why Did Nobody Tell Me This?, we’re talking about what actually happens to us when we become mothers. To our brains, our bodies, our nervous systems, our identities, our values and the way we experience ourselves. We unpack the incredible changes happening in the maternal brain and why perhaps what we jokingly call “baby brain” is actually something far more sophisticated: a brain reorganising itself around the enormous task of keeping another human alive. Which might explain why you suddenly find yourself lying awake wondering… Is the baby breathing? What was that noise? Is the room too hot? Could they choke on that? We talk about hypervigilance, intrusive thoughts and that feeling of never really being able to switch off and explore how something designed to be incredibly adaptive can also become completely exhausting when our nervous system never gets the message that it’s safe enough to stand down. But the changes aren’t only neurological. We talk about birth, hormones, shifting values, the expectations we carry about the kind of mother we thought we’d be, and the strange experience of looking in the mirror and sometimes not quite recognising the woman looking back. Because motherhood doesn’t just change what you do. It can change what matters to you. What scares you. What you need. How you see the world. And how you see yourself. And maybe one of the hardest parts is that all of this can be happening internally while, from the outside, you look like you’re doing just fine. This episode is about putting language around that transformation. **WHY DID NOBODY TELL ME THIS? | LIVE IN BONDI** We’re taking the conversations from this series **out of your headphones and into a room full of women.** 💛 Join us on **Friday 23 October at Bondi Beach** for *Why Did Nobody Tell Me This? LIVE*  a day of honest conversations, psychology, science, lived experience, incredible experts, connection, beautiful food and plenty of *“oh my god, ME TOO”* moments. This isn’t a day about how to be a better mum. **It’s a day about you, the woman who became one.** Part education. Part connection. Part exhale. GET YOUR TICKETS HERE 🎟️⁠ https://events.humanitix.com/why-did-nobody-tell-me-this?\_gl=1\*1nbtr3x\*\_gcl\_au\*MTIwMjU2MjU5MS4xNzg3MzYxNzU2\*\_ga\*MTk3MDQ3ODEyMC4xNzg3MzYxNzU3\*\_ga\_LHKW5FR9N6\*czE3ODc2NDA4NDUkbzIkZzEkdDE3ODc2NDA4NTMkajUyJGwwJGgw    You can find more of us here:  **Our Online Psychology practice:** Did you know we have online appointments available with our amazing therapists Lisa or Maddie. Learn more here https://thepsychcollaborative.com.au ***The Thriving Therapists:*** To connect with a safe and supportive community of like-minded therapists, head to our Thriving Therapists Facebook group: https://m.facebook.com/groups/224252457083630/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvF Or find us on our Instagram: https://instagram.com/thethrivingtherapists?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== **The Psychology Sisters Instagram** https://www.instagram.com/thepsychologysisters/?hl=en **The Psych Collaborative instagram** https://www.instagram.com/thepsychcollaborative/?hl=en **Please note: this episode is for informational purposes only and does not replace personalised psychological advice.**