The Naked Marriage with Dave & Ashley Willis
Sep 4, 2026 · 3 min · 5 segments
According to Dr. John Gottman's research, rolling your eyes at your spouse is one of the most accurate predictors of divorce because it reveals deep-seated contempt – the #1 predictor of divorce…
We got this from Dr. John Gottman, an amazing, brilliant researcher on marriage.
He has determined through his love lab, through watching couples interact, that couples who roll their eyes at each other have a very, very, it is a very accurate high predictor of divorce.
It's fascinating that our non-verbals are so powerful in what they communicate, how our spouse receives that communication, and what they predict.
I mean, we've seen that because our body language says a lot about whether or not we love and respect our spouse.
Because really, if you're rolling your eyes at your spouse with something they just said, it shows what the Gottmans call contempt.
Here she goes again, you know? And so we really have to watch where our thoughts go because before the eye rolls, there were probably negative thoughts that that person was feeding all day.
Help me to understand what of this is me and my problem with how I see my spouse.
We got this from Dr. John Gottman, an amazing, brilliant researcher on marriage.
He has determined through his love lab, through watching couples interact, that couples who roll their eyes at each other have a very, very, it is a very accurate high predictor of divorce.
It's fascinating that our non-verbals are so powerful in what they communicate, how our spouse receives that communication, and what they predict.
I mean, we've seen that because our body language says a lot about whether or not we love and respect our spouse.
Because really, if you're rolling your eyes at your spouse with something they just said, it shows what the Gottmans call contempt.
Here she goes again, you know? And so we really have to watch where our thoughts go because before the eye rolls, there were probably negative thoughts that that person was feeding all day.
Help me to understand what of this is me and my problem with how I see my spouse.
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