You Don't Get It... Until you Get It

So she recently asked her 48,000 followers what she should do after her seven-year-old daughter Poppy asked if she could buy a birthday present for one of her friends.

Now, the issue is Poppy wasn't invited to her friend's birthday party.

Oof.

So Rebecca wrote, "I love that her first instinct is always to think of others and make people feel special.

It makes me so proud of the person she is growing into.

At the same time, the mum in me worries that she might end up feeling hurt later on or start wondering why she wasn't invited.

I want to encourage her beautiful generosity and big heart, but also protect those feelings that are still so little and tender." She then asked her followers what they would do in her situation.

She added, "Should she let her daughter buy a gift or instead suggest to make a card or simply just leave it?" She then finished up by writing, "I feel so torn because all I can think about is her not being invited while all she can think about is being kind." This has just sparked old memories in me.

I remember sitting at primary school in the playground, and if I knew someone's birthday was coming up, not that I'd suck up to them, but I'd almost put the feelers out, being like, "Oh, so you're having a party? Oh, do you like Kate and Amy? Do, would you- [laughs] ...

invite them as well? Like, will we all get a call-up for this party?" Really? See, we would- Yeah ...

we would immediately, I reckon, thinking about it now, because we kind of came as a trio, we probably would be easily left off invite lists.

So- I think that's what I was, uh, insecure about.

I was worried that that would happen.

I remember actually someone saying that we only counted as one person.

[laughs] They're like, "Oh, that's okay.

I've invited the triplets," but that just counted as one friend.

Mm.

'Cause yeah, back in the day, I feel like parents would say you can have five friends.

Yeah.

And that was it.

And that, yeah, so how do you guys feel about that? Do you think that the whole class should be invited- Well- ...

so people aren't excluded? I- 'Cause I mean, exclusion is one of the biggest forms of bullying, I think.

Well, we obviously don't have school-aged children, but I was chatting to some friends that do, and a lot of people, e- especially in the early years, they do invite the whole class to the party.

Oh, mm.

Which also can be an issue because one of my friends was saying that she's very close and, and her child is very close friends with a boy who's turning, I think he's turning seven or something, and he is having everyone over from school, and they're having a sleepover.