You Do Not Need More Judgment. You Need Right Perception

Here's another one of those truths that can change the way people heal, perform, lead, parent, relate, live.

And it's this.

You don't need more judgment.

You need right perception.

I want to start there because I think a lot of people have been trying to grow and improve and even heal through the wrong method.

They think judgment is helping.

They think if they stay hard on themselves, they'll stay sharp.

If they criticize themselves enough, they'll finally change.

If they shame themselves enough, they'll stop repeating the pattern.

If they mentally point out everything wrong fast enough, they'll become better and stronger, wiser, more disciplined, more evolved.

I really do not think that is what is happening.

I think a lot of people are not correcting themselves.

I think they are condemning themselves.

And those are not the same thing.

So the first light bulb moment I'd like for you to have because correction is clean.

Correction is useful.

Correction is clear.

Correction says, let me see what is happening accurately so I can respond in a way that helps.

Condemnation is different.

Condemnation attacks.

Condemnation personalizes.

Condemnation exaggerates.

Condemnation turns one moment into a verdict.

Condemnation makes the struggle feel like identity.

Condemnation says, this is what you are.