Emotional Safety Is the Real Reason You've Stopped Having Sex in Your Relationship

So with that being said, the first thing that I wanna touch on of why people lose the polarity, the sex, the connection, the spark, the polarity, is that they lose themselves in the relationship.

It happens so often.

And I was even guilty of it early on in my relationship with my now marriage, my now wife, is that we put other people's needs ahead of our own.

Now that's important from time to time and it does play out from time to time to this day.

But if you don't fundamentally fill your own cup and pour from the overfill, then you're literally becoming and being a limited version of who you are.

You're being the best version of your limited self.

Picture this quote.

I hear people say it so often and I disagree with it so much.

That my partner completes me.

What does that imply? That you're incomplete.

It's such a stupid concept that people say.

The goal for healthy relationships, if you want a healthy one, if you don't, turn this video off.

If you want a healthy relationship, what does that require? Two whole human beings whose self-worth is through the roof.

They're so inspired, fulfilled and electrified and turned on by life that their cup is overfilling with so much love and excitement and enthusiasm and inspiration that you can pour into your partner from the overfill.

And so many people miss that.

They put themselves down to bring their partner up.

Now there's moments when that happens.

Like it happened yesterday, me and my wife had some triggers that come to the surface and we help each other heal through and love and support each other when it comes up.

So we have it momentarily.

So it's going to happen.

I'm not saying like, don't look after your partner, don't love your partner.

But I'm saying, don't put yourself down to bring your partner up.

Find that balance of doing the things that are actually meaningful to you.

Now, if you've done any work with me, if you're watching any of my other content, I talk about values a ton in my content because values tie into this.

Low self-worth is feedback.