Jun 25, 2026 · 5 min · 6 segments
Havilah Arendse explores the trials and tribulations of dating alongside some of her queer and disabled friends. * * * Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more…
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Dating Diaries, Navigating Dating While Queer and Disabled, by Havilla Arens.
What better way to start than talking about the trials and tribulations of dating while queer and disabled? My understanding of queer identity in Aotearoa was that being queer means existing unapologetically, being loud and, my favourite, being colourful.
But as someone who can barely dress herself most days, the struggle to express myself and be my authentically queer self dwindles fast.
It also makes presenting myself in the oh-so-scary realm of dating harder when most days I'm dressed more like Adam Sandler than Jem from Jem and the Holograms.
I interview pals Lilith and Ray to weigh in on navigating dating while queer and disabled.
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