May 29, 2026 · 24 min · 9 segments
Most men believe they are showing up fully in their relationships. They are doing everything right on paper. And yet something feels off. The intimacy is not quite there, the trust is not fully built…
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There is a big difference between a man who has found his deepest why and deepest meaning in life, and from that place commits fully to a relationship, to a woman, to a marriage, and the man who hasn't yet found his deepest why and meaning, and tries to commit fully to a relationship.
The emphasis and keyword here is tries, because a man, by nature, cannot fully commit to a woman if he hasn't found true meaning in his life.
Why? Because he will turn the woman into his quest for meaning and into his quest for purpose.
And while that might sound noble, and such a man might do everything right on paper, have the right intentions, there will be problems down the line, and actually commitment issues.
And when you think about this, it doesn't make sense, and some people might say, "Well, why not make a relationship your deepest meaning?" And here's the key thing.
When I say this, I don't mean a man should prioritize his purpose, and then kind of as a byproduct think about his partner.
My wife is the most important person in my life, and if there is a challenge, that challenge comes first, and not the purpose.
This doesn't mean a man gets buried a- away in work and, and the marriage or the relationship is only an afterthought.
Because if he does that, then he will mistake relational peace for inner peace, meaning he will become...
If there is tension for a moment, which is... can be there, there is imperfection in every single relationship.
And paradoxically, this won't make a woman feel that he's fully devoted and committed to her.
Paradoxically, everything that sounds right, seems right, looks good on paper, doesn't necessarily produce, and produce might not be the best word, but for lack of better words, produce a feeling of someone who's fully devoted and fully committed.
So the key is that a man, as men, we source our true confidence, our presence, our freedom, our ability to give love and our heart fully through service.
So there has to be a deeper service, a deeper mission, a deeper calling in our lives.
If there is a moment of challenge or something arises, then everything is a disaster, and I fall apart," then that's not purpose.
There is a big difference between a man who has found his deepest why and deepest meaning in life, and from that place commits fully to a relationship, to a woman, to a marriage, and the man who hasn't yet found his deepest why and meaning, and tries to commit fully to a relationship.
The emphasis and keyword here is tries, because a man, by nature, cannot fully commit to a woman if he hasn't found true meaning in his life.
Why? Because he will turn the woman into his quest for meaning and into his quest for purpose.
And while that might sound noble, and such a man might do everything right on paper, have the right intentions, there will be problems down the line, and actually commitment issues.
And when you think about this, it doesn't make sense, and some people might say, "Well, why not make a relationship your deepest meaning?" And here's the key thing.
When I say this, I don't mean a man should prioritize his purpose, and then kind of as a byproduct think about his partner.
My wife is the most important person in my life, and if there is a challenge, that challenge comes first, and not the purpose.
This doesn't mean a man gets buried a- away in work and, and the marriage or the relationship is only an afterthought.
Because if he does that, then he will mistake relational peace for inner peace, meaning he will become...
If there is tension for a moment, which is... can be there, there is imperfection in every single relationship.
And paradoxically, this won't make a woman feel that he's fully devoted and committed to her.
Paradoxically, everything that sounds right, seems right, looks good on paper, doesn't necessarily produce, and produce might not be the best word, but for lack of better words, produce a feeling of someone who's fully devoted and fully committed.
So the key is that a man, as men, we source our true confidence, our presence, our freedom, our ability to give love and our heart fully through service.
So there has to be a deeper service, a deeper mission, a deeper calling in our lives.
If there is a moment of challenge or something arises, then everything is a disaster, and I fall apart," then that's not purpose.
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