The One Thing No One Tells You About Mother & Father Wounding

Most people on a healing journey believe they have moved past their parents' patterns. They meditate, they do the inner work, they say with real conviction, "I am nothing like my mother" or "I am nothing like my father." And yet the same reactions keep showing up in their closest relationships: shutting down, getting defensive, feeling criticized when nothing critical was said. In this episode, Lorin breaks down one of the most overlooked layers of healing the mother and father wound: the unconscious imprints that get passed down and repeated, even by people who consciously tried to do the opposite of what their parents did. Lorin shares a personal story about his father, who vowed never to repeat his own father's emotional absence and showed up far more present in many ways, yet still passed down a version of that same wound in a different form. This becomes the entry point for a wider look at two layers of healing: the work of addressing the relationship with a parent directly through boundaries, letting go of guilt, or cord cutting, and the much harder work of recognizing where their reactions, defensiveness, avoidance, the need to explain or defend yourself, have become part of your own. Lorin walks through how to spot these patterns in daily life, why the shadow works so hard to keep them hidden, and what changes the moment they are brought into the light, both in yourself and with the people you love most. He closes with two practical steps anyone can take to start identifying and working with their own imprint. Mentioned in this episode: Healing Your Inner Child A 2.5-hour immersive workshop on why the same patterns keep appearing in your relationships, your work, your finances, and your life, and how to change them at the root.