Episode 4: So You're Self Aware...Cool. Did You Change?

Self-awareness sounds great. But what happens when you recognize your patterns, understand your triggers, know exactly what you *should* do differently…and then keep doing the same thing? That’s where the real work begins. In Episode 3, Cheryl and Kiah get into the uncomfortable gap between **knowing ourselves and actually changing ourselves.** Because conscious leadership isn’t about how self-aware we believe we are—it becomes visible in our behaviour, our patterns, our impact, and how willing we are to take accountability when those things don’t match our intentions. Through honest examples from work, family, and relationships, Cheryl and Kiah explore what happens when our intentions are good but our impact says something different. They talk about having big personalities, making room for disagreement, unconscious bias, authenticity, code switching, and the difference between adjusting how we show up and shrinking who we are. Because reading the books, knowing the language, and being able to name your patterns is awareness. **Changing the pattern? That’s the practice.** - Is self-awareness actually enough if it doesn’t change our behaviour? - Why impact can tell us more about our leadership than intention alone - How repeated patterns reveal where there is still work to do - Creating space for disagreement without losing your own voice - The difference between adjusting your delivery and dimming who you are - What happens when our values and our behaviour don’t match - Why knowing leadership language doesn’t automatically make us conscious leaders - How feedback can challenge the version of ourselves we believe to be true - The role of accountability, repetition, and reflection in creating real change - Why conscious leadership is something we practice—not a label we give ourselves **The question isn’t just, “Am I self-aware?”** It’s **“What am I doing differently because of what I now know?”** Key Topics