Ep942 Anger Used Correctly

The first thing, man, the misconception of anger.

Most self-help advice treats anger as a toxic leak you need to plug.

You are told in court to ten, to meditate, or to, uh, to count to ten, or to meditate, or to reframe your thoughts until the feelings pass.

So they basically, everybody saying, "Look, man, fuck them feelings.

Fuck that anger.

Stop." You feel me? The problem suppressing your anger is just, it j- it isn't just stays bottled up.

It, that it suppresses, destroys the data.

It's the suppression that destroys the data.

Anger is an emotional alert system.

It only triggers when something that you value is being threatened, violated, or ignored.

If you didn't care deeply about fairness, dishonesty, you wouldn't make your blood boil.

If you didn't value autonomy, micromanagement, you wouldn't make you feel suffocated, right? When anger is-- When you eliminate anger, you eliminate the loudest signal brain has to tell you actually what matters to you.

So when something matters to you, you know how you feel about it.

You know what's going on.

That's 'cause you love it.

Hey, hey, don't treat my shit like that.

What the fuck is you doing, bro? You feel me? You know you got those, those concepts of anger, like when people do some shit that you don't like, and that's cool.

That's an alert.

Hey, use that system.

Don't just sit there and hush the fuck up and let them fuck it up, and you go fix the problem.

No.

Say something about it so they won't do that shit no more.

You don't need to have that problem out of them no motherfucking more.