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And the ultimate outsider, you know, the ultimate threat to that perimeter is the ex-partner.
Which brought up a scenario in the notes that I found incredibly intense.
Oh, the listener question.
Yes.
So the discussion on the show kicks off with a listener asking, um, "Is it okay for a boyfriend to just casually check in on his married, pregnant ex-girlfriend just to say congratulations?"
And the answer on the show wasn't a maybe or like-- And it depends on their history.
Not at all.
It was a definitive hard no.
In fact, they argue there is absolutely zero reason to communicate with an ex whatsoever unless you share children.
And even if you do share children, the relationship has to remain strictly and coldly cordial.
Just business.
Exactly.
The terminology they use to justify this is actually really critical.
Fontenot emphatically states that once you are divorced or broken up, you are no longer a household.
Right.
And because that household has been dissolved, you are no longer family.
That is-- I mean, that's heavy.
It is.
The new partner, specifically in this context, they talk about a high value masculine partner must take absolute priority over any historical emotional ties.
I really struggled with that one, I won't lie.
Like stripping the title of family from someone you literally created human life with.
It goes against a lot of what we're taught now.
Completely.
In modern co-parenting, the absolute golden rule we are fed is that kids need to see their parents as a unified, friendly front.
Ah.
And the ultimate outsider, you know, the ultimate threat to that perimeter is the ex-partner.
Which brought up a scenario in the notes that I found incredibly intense.
Oh, the listener question.
Yes.
So the discussion on the show kicks off with a listener asking, um, "Is it okay for a boyfriend to just casually check in on his married, pregnant ex-girlfriend just to say congratulations?"
And the answer on the show wasn't a maybe or like-- And it depends on their history.
Not at all.
It was a definitive hard no.
In fact, they argue there is absolutely zero reason to communicate with an ex whatsoever unless you share children.
And even if you do share children, the relationship has to remain strictly and coldly cordial.
Just business.
Exactly.
The terminology they use to justify this is actually really critical.
Fontenot emphatically states that once you are divorced or broken up, you are no longer a household.
Right.
And because that household has been dissolved, you are no longer family.
That is-- I mean, that's heavy.
It is.
The new partner, specifically in this context, they talk about a high value masculine partner must take absolute priority over any historical emotional ties.
I really struggled with that one, I won't lie.
Like stripping the title of family from someone you literally created human life with.
It goes against a lot of what we're taught now.
Completely.
In modern co-parenting, the absolute golden rule we are fed is that kids need to see their parents as a unified, friendly front.
Ah.
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