EP 3:50 Sexual Healing post-Chemsex: The Fuck Buddy

Send us Fan Mail Supplemental Study Guide: https://www.recoveryalchemy.org/newsletters/blog/posts/fbuddy In this solo episode of The AfterMeth Podcast, Dallas Bragg opens with a story from his earliest days of recovery, when finally settling into a home with his kids set off cravings and a deep fear of sex. Drug tested several times a week and told in 12-step rooms to wait a year, he made his own plan. He invited a non-attached fuck buddy, a friend also in meth recovery, to live with him for a few months. That arrangement kept him off Grindr, helped rewire his brain, and put him on the path to enjoying sober sex. Dallas is clear that this is not a prescription. Many men need to start slow and start alone, with a porn detox, sober masturbation, and careful attention to what triggers cravings. He also stresses that there is no universal timeline for returning to partnered sex. From there, Dallas lays out the art and science of using a fuck buddy for sexual reintegration. Drawing on Jack Morin's *The Erotic Mind* and its love/lust conflict, he explains why a low-pressure, non-romantic partner helps men get out of their heads and into their bodies. He walks through the preparation step by step: - Define "ready" as radical honesty rather than horniness. - Build a safe container and involve your recovery team. - Write an if-then plan for before, during, and after sex. - Set a clear exit and safe word. - Name your sober sexual values. - Set boundaries without turning them into expectations. - Choose on purpose which kinks come forward into sober life. - Design a sensory scene that tells the nervous system this is different and safe. He also covers interviewing a potential partner, treating a partner's "no" as low-stakes shadow work around rejection, and considering a sober sex worker as a recovery tool. The study guide linked in the show notes includes his Sober Fuck Buddy Planning Sheet. The AfterMeth: Join our Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theaftermeth/ Dallas Bragg Subscribe to our weekly newsletter: https://www.drdallasbragg.com/newsletters/blog Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drdallasbragg Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdallasbragg/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drdallasbragg YouTube: The Aftermeth Podcast X: https://twitter.com/Drdallasbragg Free online course to End the Relapse Cycle: https://www.drdallasbragg.com/offers/e7c2Eo22/checkout Meth-Free Blueprint EBOOK: https://www.drdallasbragg.com/offers/o8qFhK5i/checkout