Sexual Pleasure

For many couples, especially those recovering from infidelity, sex carries an impossible weight. The betrayed partner may feel pressure to perform, to compete, to prove something. The involved partner may be desperate to demonstrate change. And underneath it all, many people have never learned what genuinely brings them pleasure in the first place. In this second episode of our series on sexuality, intimacy coach Linda Landon offers a different path. Rather than chasing better technique or bigger outcomes, Linda's approach begins with each person coming home to their own body—learning to be present, to feel, and to receive—before reaching toward their partner. From that grounded place, she says, real intimacy becomes possible, and pleasure follows as an outcome rather than a goal. Linda speaks from lived experience. Despite being deeply embodied and sensual from childhood, she spent decades with a block that kept full sexual pleasure out of reach. At 50, during menopause, she began a journey of self-exploration that transformed her life and eventually reshaped her work as a couples coach. In this conversation, we explore: Why so many people (Linda estimates 80–85% of the women she works with) reach adulthood without knowing what brings them real sexual pleasure How early shame messages shape a lifetime of disconnection from our own bodies The problem with "male-centric" sexual timing and the pressure created by media expectations Why performative sex (sex as proving, pleasing, or achieving) leaves both partners disconnected How taking climax and penetration "off the table" can open the door to deeper intimacy Resistance as a doorway: why hitting a wall in this work is inevitable, and even welcome What this means for couples rebuilding sexual connection after betrayal, and why healing intimacy is not about better performance A guided practice for you to try right now LINKS and EXTRAS Episode Page: https://affairhealing.com/podcasts/067 Linda Landon’s website: igniteyourjoy.us — Download a free sample of *Pleasure Past Fifty* on the home page (with an option to receive the full book free). Sign up for my Newsletter for encouragement and information about recommendations and new resources for affair healing, relationship growth, and personal change. Need personal help? Schedule a Session with one of our coaches.