CLIP: "It Calms Down Your Mind"

I hear this a lot from coaching clients, is I hear like, "There's no time.

I don't have time.

It- things are crazy and I don't have any time and everybody need me all the time and no one's helping me.

I'm doing it all by myself and I'm starting from scratch and it's scary." So words like scary and I don't have time, you have cravings about lack and cravings about fear and, and about lack of control and maybe people being against you or people trying to sabotage you and that's some scary stuff.

And so we would always kind of, whatever the thing was, we would get to, you can only change two-- you can either change the physical thing that's happening, like can you move away from that person? Can you not go to that meeting? Can you ask that person not to do that? Like, can you physically change it? Or you have to change how you're thinking about it.

Hmm.

And those are really the only two things that, that's it.

So when, you know, no matter what it was about, if it was about a client, if it was about a pile of paperwork, if it was about a relationship, if it was about anything, what can you actually change about this in reality? But decide to do that and hold you accountable to it.

And then the other thing is what can you change about how you're thinking about this? So slow down your self-talk and walk through your day like everything was okay.

When you hear somebody stressed out talking, they're usually talking really fast and their breath is really short and they, you know, "And then this happened, and this happened, and then, and I just can't..." Just tell me that story again really slowly as if everything is okay.

Their brain is responding to the panic in their body and, and so say, "I've got plenty of time and I know what I'm doing and I'm good at planning things." And it calms down your mind