The Acceptance Project | Personal Growth, Self-Care, & Emotional Health
Sep 23, 2026 · 23 min · 9 segments
**Have you ever wondered whether someone's behavior toward you is more than just conflict?** Bullying doesn't end when we become adults. It can happen at work, in our neighborhoods, and online — but…
Bryan GrossHost
We ask whether the situation is really bullying or whether two adults simply don't get along.
Adults can dislike one another, challenge decisions, or maybe have completely different personalities without either person becoming a bully.
Conflict usually involves people who have some ability to speak, negotiate, or respond.
Bullying involves power being used repeatedly to intimidate, maybe isolate or humiliate, or maybe even control another person.
It can come from social influence, access to information, or the ability to turn a group against one person.
Now, relational aggression works particularly well in adult settings because it leaves very little visible evidence.
There may be no shoving in the hallway, but instead someone is left off of an important email, excluded from a meeting, or quietly described as difficult.
each act can be explained away on its own together they form a pattern that steadily pushes someone to the edge now the target may begin shrinking before anyone else recognizes what is happening They rehearse ordinary conversations, apologize more often, and avoid asking questions that might draw attention.
They begin doing emotional math all day long, trying to determine how much of themselves the environment will tolerate.
And at Bridging Success, we help organizations and communities recognize that pattern.
I work with schools and workplaces and community groups dealing with bullying, disengagement, and even people who no longer feel as if they do belong.
It's to build healthier environments where disagreement is not used as permission to destroy someone's dignity.
We ask whether the situation is really bullying or whether two adults simply don't get along.
Adults can dislike one another, challenge decisions, or maybe have completely different personalities without either person becoming a bully.
Conflict usually involves people who have some ability to speak, negotiate, or respond.
Bullying involves power being used repeatedly to intimidate, maybe isolate or humiliate, or maybe even control another person.
It can come from social influence, access to information, or the ability to turn a group against one person.
Now, relational aggression works particularly well in adult settings because it leaves very little visible evidence.
There may be no shoving in the hallway, but instead someone is left off of an important email, excluded from a meeting, or quietly described as difficult.
each act can be explained away on its own together they form a pattern that steadily pushes someone to the edge now the target may begin shrinking before anyone else recognizes what is happening They rehearse ordinary conversations, apologize more often, and avoid asking questions that might draw attention.
They begin doing emotional math all day long, trying to determine how much of themselves the environment will tolerate.
And at Bridging Success, we help organizations and communities recognize that pattern.
I work with schools and workplaces and community groups dealing with bullying, disengagement, and even people who no longer feel as if they do belong.
It's to build healthier environments where disagreement is not used as permission to destroy someone's dignity.
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