#184: Dating Like a CEO: Stop Chasing Women, Build a Funnel

So there's a couple shifts you need to make in your identity.

Number one, it's always being versus doing.

You see a lot of guys, they want to wait till they have the perfect

look,

the perfect job, the perfect situation before actually feeling like they are worthy of all these quality women.

But As long as you're working on yourself and you're working towards a goal and towards that vision, you can start dating women consistently.

You don't need to be the perfect guy.

Women don't want the guy that's perfect.

They want a guy that's perfectly fine with himself, who's already on the journey of growth and who's perfectly fine with just being himself.

and enjoying his journey towards growth, you know? So this is the first shift.

Second shift is you don't need to learn and recite lines like all these guys do.

You don't need another Tinder opener.

You don't need another pickup line, whatever.

What you truly need is you need more confidence, you need more clarity, and you need to believe that you're worthy of these women, regardless of what you're saying.

Because a lot of guys think, oh, I need the perfect thing to say, which is absolutely not true, because it's not about...

What is said, it's not about what is being said, it's about who says it.

It's about the person behind what is being said.

So if you have a strong character, a strong identity, no matter what you're saying, it's still gonna go well because at the core, you have that strong character.

Think James Bond.

James Bond could say anything But because he has that strong frame, it still goes well, you know? So your character is way more important than all the external things you have.

So that's the first shift.

I mean, there's different shifts, but I can't make this too long.

But identity work is very important because part of the game is inner game.

You have inner game and outer game.

And the inner game part of dating is super, super important.