What NOT To Say To Someone Going Through IVF (Real Comments I've Received)

Because I don't just want to be like sitting here being like, don't do this and don't do this and don't do this.

I'll be like, hey, instead try this.

So hopefully that's okay with you guys.

A quick message to those who are in the infertility journey.

You're a motherfucking trooper.

Let me tell you, you actually are.

And I'm really sorry that this has been what it takes to get you to expanding your family.

On that, be really choosy who you share your information with and who you share this journey with.

Have a little circle.

Tell them what you need and how you want to be helped or supported.

I actually think it's our responsibility as someone who's going through something, and this could be for anything.

This could be for chronic illness.

This could actually carry across to so many other things.

It's my job to communicate what I need from my friends and how I want to be supported, especially if they're friends that have not been through this.

You need to explain to them and use your words and how you want them to manage you and talk to you and also what your hard limits are.

I kind of think it's your responsibility to lead here because every one of you has varying needs.

And what I'm going to share today is not going to apply to everyone either, right? And I know sometimes you're like, oh, I just don't really know what I want or like that changes.

And that's fine if that changes, update your information, you know, share with your little people, your little circle, not your little people.

But yeah, it's fucking exhausting after four arduous, long, painful, expensive and debilitating years of this shit to still have people at you.

One of the comments I'm going to share today came through two days ago.

Ain't that fun? And like I said, it's kind of funny because people with chronic illness also get the same thing, right? I've got a beautiful friend, Anjali, who's a type 1 diabetic.

I've got a beautiful friend, Cass, who has MS. She's young and gorgeous.

You know...

A lot of these things are invisible and I see both sides of it.

I have stage four endo and polycystic ovarian syndrome.