The Female Narcissist's Obsession with Destroying Other Women

I think one of the biggest mistakes people make when dealing with female narcissists, if not the biggest mistake when dealing with a narcissist in general, is assuming that the narcissist thinks the way they do.

And I say this all the time because it is so important.

Healthy people tend to project their own conscience empathy, and intentions onto other people.

If you would never pretend to love someone while secretly trying to destroy them, it may never occur to you that someone else would.

If you would never collect personal information from a friend and later use it against her, you don't expect someone else to do it.

If you would never smile in someone's face and then spend hours tearing her apart behind her back, you assume that the person smiling at you is genuine.

If you would never intentionally sabotage another woman's marriage, friendships, career, or reputation, you don't immediately recognize that someone else may be capable of doing exactly that.

And unfortunately, that assumption can make kind assumptions.

empathetic, trusting people, incredibly vulnerable to female narcissists or any other kind of predatory person.

Because the female narcissist can be very relational in the way that she operates.

She may not immediately come into your life screaming, raging, threatening.

or obviously abusing you.

Many times she comes into your life appearing intensely interested in you.

She asks questions.

She wants to know everything.

She may compliment you excessively.

She may tell you how much she admires you.

She may say she has never met anyone like you.

She may create an incredibly intense friendship very quickly.

She wants to know about your childhood, your marriage, your fears, your insecurities, your family, your finances, your relationships, your mistakes, your dreams, your vulnerabilities.

She may call constantly, text constantly, want to spend all of her time with you.

She may tell you things like, you're the sister I never had, or I've never been able to talk to anyone the way I can talk to you.

And because you believe you are building intimacy, you open up.

You tell her things.

You trust her.