You'll NEVER be scared of *being judged* again after listening to this

Why do we judge? Our brains love to know what is normal.

It is really, really comfortable to be in a place, to be in an environment which is familiar to us.

And so the people around us are no different.

You see, when we first meet someone, we sort of take like a mental documentation about them and how we choose to perceive them.

So just say that they were really kind to us, we see, okay, this is a kind person.

And if they have their hair done up like a slick back, then we assume that they are really focused and disciplined and whatever else you associate having a slick back hair with.

And so we sort of compartmentalize them in our minds.

And the fact that we do that makes them really familiar and their character is familiar.

So every time we see them, it makes us comfortable to know that what we see is going to be what we expect because we have a certain image of them in our minds and the image that we have in our minds matches up with what we see in reality.

however the problem in our mind occurs when there is change and we're going to talk a little bit more later on about why this change is so important and why it is the absolute keystone for overcoming judgment but all you need to know for now is that the thing people will judge the most is change because it interrupts the way that they have been perceiving them so just say you've had a friend for your entire life who has always been blonde every single time you've seen them they've had blonde hair You get used to that and your brain, when you picture them in your head, they have blonde hair.

So naturally, when you go to meet them in person, you expect them to have blonde hair and then just say one day they decide, I'm going to dye my hair pink.

you see them and it surprises you and your brain goes wait a second i thought this was the blonde girl and it kind of interrupts the process that your brain would naturally go down and this is what creates a little bit of discomfort in us as the

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because our understanding of them and our perception of them has been altered so hold on to that thought for the minute and later on i'm going to explain how this comes into play when it comes to overcoming judgment well overcoming fear of judgment rather because you can't actually stop people judging that is just against human nature it doesn't work like that so part two of like the introduction why we fear judgment it is a very normal fear to have and it sort of comes from that innate human fear of social isolation because naturally back in the caveman era when it was life or death if you were isolated then it meant that you would die because you needed people around you to give you food and give you warmth and Everything that you needed to survive and so if you were isolated from a group for whatever reason you would perish and so The fear of isolation is very innately embedded into us even in this modern era now when we feel judged it's essentially a way of feeling like Society is against us makes us feel like we don't fit in and it makes us feel like we are excluded from the group so naturally when you kind of combine those fears you can understand why we feel so scared of doing something different because then that puts us in a position where we are more likely to be judged and more likely to face the consequences but now that we are living in this modern society and modern world most of the time that is not a life or death situation.

So nowadays when we get judged, we face humiliation still, but we're not actually in danger of survival.

Now, if your survival is actually in danger, then do not worry about overcoming the fear of judgment because you need to survive.

But in 99.9% of cases and 99.9% of you watching this, the thing that you are thinking of doing, the decision that you are wanting to make is not going to result in life or death.

So here is how we are actually going to overcome it.

So remember what I said before about the fact that people will judge change the most.

They perceive you one way, you change, and then that interrupts that and it makes them uncomfortable.

This is the most fundamental part, because often we think that we start doing something new.

People are just going to judge us forever.

We will never be included again.

It is like not possible to overcome it.

Thankfully, this could not be further from the truth.