Stress Management + Resilience Tools for Your Happified Life
Sep 17, 2026 · 33 min · 10 segments
Host Susi Vine revisits people-pleasing and the hidden mental and emotional labor it creates, focusing on what happens next, when you find your “No". You may be feeling guilty or wanting to soften…
Susi VineHost
But I think it's important to come back to the topic, not only because it's something that I feel maybe a lot of my audience relate to.
I know personally, it is something that I have been and continue to work through as somebody who just... maybe more naturally or easily than most people, drops into the role of playing peacekeeper.
And I think that, you know, in this time of Sparring personalities, viewpoints, opinions, people are feeling very passionate, somewhat righteous, a little indignant.
Let's take a look for those of us who maybe take on a little more of that than we need to recognize that it is not up to us.
In fact, those emotions need to be expressed, the conversations need to be had, and this air needs to be cleared.
Like I said, I talked about this a few weeks ago, so I hope you will check back on that conversation if you missed it or if you're intrigued because I'm just going to jump in kind of where I left off.
It's So last time we took a look about, you know, people who say yes and then maybe regret it, who make accommodations to help other people feel more comfortable, feel happier, feel less stressed out or weary.
We try to take on a little bit of extra physical or emotional load to help people out.
Maybe you're recognizing that when you feel resentfulness after agreeing to something or after someone... expects an answer from you before you've even given it.
You've tuned into that resentment and you've gotten curious and you've wondered where that's coming from and what it has to say to you.
Now you're Maybe this isn't new, but you get into a loop of replaying that conversation.
But I think it's important to come back to the topic, not only because it's something that I feel maybe a lot of my audience relate to.
I know personally, it is something that I have been and continue to work through as somebody who just... maybe more naturally or easily than most people, drops into the role of playing peacekeeper.
And I think that, you know, in this time of Sparring personalities, viewpoints, opinions, people are feeling very passionate, somewhat righteous, a little indignant.
Let's take a look for those of us who maybe take on a little more of that than we need to recognize that it is not up to us.
In fact, those emotions need to be expressed, the conversations need to be had, and this air needs to be cleared.
Like I said, I talked about this a few weeks ago, so I hope you will check back on that conversation if you missed it or if you're intrigued because I'm just going to jump in kind of where I left off.
It's So last time we took a look about, you know, people who say yes and then maybe regret it, who make accommodations to help other people feel more comfortable, feel happier, feel less stressed out or weary.
We try to take on a little bit of extra physical or emotional load to help people out.
Maybe you're recognizing that when you feel resentfulness after agreeing to something or after someone... expects an answer from you before you've even given it.
You've tuned into that resentment and you've gotten curious and you've wondered where that's coming from and what it has to say to you.
Now you're Maybe this isn't new, but you get into a loop of replaying that conversation.
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