E320: No Rock Bottom? Try This Instead

One of the confusing things about trying to quit drinking is watching how differently it works for different people.

You'll hear some people say that they had a moment where they just knew they were done.

They couldn't keep living like that, and then something clicked for them.

There was no more back and forth, no more debating, no more maybe someday.

They made a decision, and they stuck to it.

And then there are other people who don't have that moment.

They take breaks, they try moderation, they go back and forth.

They may go weeks or months without drinking, feel better, and then start questioning whether or not they can handle it again.

And when they compare themselves to the first type of person, it can feel like something's wrong with them.

Like, "Why can't I just decide and be done?" Or, "What's wrong with me?" It's very easy to interpret that as a lack of willpower or not wanting it badly enough, but that's not actually what's going on.

The difference isn't about how serious you are or how much you care.

It's about how commitment gets created in the brain.

Some people reach a point where the decision becomes internal.

Others need more structure, more reinforcement, and more support to get to that same place.

And this is important because if you're waiting for a moment where you suddenly feel completely done, you might be waiting for a long time.

Not everyone gets a rock bottom moment, but that doesn't mean that you can't build the same level of commitment another way.

You've made the most powerful decision about what goes into your body.

You stopped drinking.

Your brain and your body are rebuilding because of it.