023: Your Body Knows What It Wants: Reconnecting with Desire, Pleasure & Intimacy with Dr. Laura Jurgens

What if your libido isn't broken? In this powerful conversation, Jennifer sits down with desire gap specialist and somatic sex coach Dr. Laura Jurgens to explore why so many people feel disconnected from desire, pleasure, and intimacy, especially in midlife. Together, they unpack the difference between low libido and disconnection, why so many women have learned to live in their heads instead of their bodies, and how stress, burnout, people-pleasing, and cultural conditioning can impact our relationship with sex. Laura shares her expertise on responsive desire, mismatched libido, nervous system regulation, embodiment, and the concept of "disembodied consent" while offering practical ways to reconnect with your body's wisdom and reclaim authentic intimacy. If you've ever wondered whether your desire is gone forever, struggled with mismatched libido in your relationship, or felt disconnected from your pleasure, this episode is for you. In This Episode We Discuss: - Why low libido is often misunderstood - The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire - How stress, burnout, and midlife changes affect intimacy - Why getting out of your head is essential for pleasure - Reconnecting with your body through somatic awareness - The impact of ADHD and neurodivergence on desire - Why mismatched libido feels so personal - The biggest mistakes couples make when navigating desire differences - What "disembodied consent" means and why it matters - How obligation sex damages intimacy - Practical ways to rebuild connection and desire - Why long-term relationships don't have to kill passion - How honesty and embodiment can transform your sex life **Connect with Dr. Laura Jurgens**🌐 Website: Laura Jurgens Website 🎙️ Podcast: Pleasure Uprising Podcast 📝 Substack: [Pleasure Uprising Substack]() **Free Resource for Listeners**Laura created a free guide exclusively for listeners: **Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy** Inside you'll learn: - Why overthinking during intimacy is a nervous system response, not a personal failure - How to release shame and "should" thinking - Body-based practices you can use immediately - How to better understand your own desire patterns **Download it here:** 👉 Get Out of Your Head Free Guide **Connect with Jennifer Summers**🌐 [Summers of Love](www.summersoflove.com) 📱 Follow Jennifer on social: **@theselfmadediva** 🎙️ Subscribe to **SIP with Summers** for honest conversations about sex, intimacy, relationships, menopause, pleasure, and living fully in midlife. Because pleasure is your birthright... and awkward is our love language. 💋