021: Sex, Good Sex, and Sacred Sex: Why Your Best Intimacy May Still Be Ahead of You

Is all sex created equal? In this thought-provoking conversation, Jennifer sits down with psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Bruce Chalmer to explore the difference between sex, good sex, and sacred sex, and why intimacy may be the missing ingredient many couples are searching for. Drawing from more than 30 years of experience working with couples, Dr. Chalmer explains why great sex isn't about performance, technique, or getting everything "right." Instead, it starts with presence, honesty, vulnerability, and the willingness to tolerate a little discomfort. Together, Jennifer and Dr. Chalmer discuss how intimacy creates deeper connection, why communication is more than just learning the right words, and how couples can navigate desire differences with grace rather than resentment. They also explore the concept of sacred sex, those rare moments when sexual connection becomes something larger than ourselves and connects us to meaning, spirituality, and awe. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, navigating midlife changes, or simply curious about creating more connection in your intimate life, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what truly makes sex fulfilling. **In This Episode:** ✨ The difference between sex, good sex, and sacred sex ✨ Why intimacy requires vulnerability and the ability to tolerate anxiety ✨ How couples unintentionally lose connection ✨ The role communication plays in creating better sex ✨ Responsive desire and why "not in the mood" doesn't always mean no ✨ Why lubrication, toys, and sexual tools are nothing to be ashamed of ✨ Common misunderstandings men and women have about sex ✨ Why many people experience their best sex later in life ✨ How maturity can lead to deeper intimacy and connection ✨ The powerful relationship philosophy: "Be kind, don't panic, and have faith" **About Dr. Bruce Chalmer**Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist who has spent more than three decades helping couples build stronger, more connected relationships. He is the author of several books, including *Reigniting the Spark*, *It's Not About Communication!*, *The Passion Paradox*, and *Betrayal and Forgiveness*. He is also co-host of the *Couples Therapy in Seven Words* podcast with his wife, Judy Alexander. **Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer**🌐 Website: Bruce Chalmer Official Website 🎙️ Podcast: Couples Therapy in Seven Words **Connect with Jennifer**🌐 [Summers of Love]() 📱 Follow Jennifer for conversations about sex, intimacy, pleasure, menopause, and living fully in every stage of life.