She Knows How To Ride #785

But here's a husband.

I'm sorry.

Here's a wife.

Her email says, my husband and I are approaching the one year anniversary and we're still unable to have penetrative sex without pain.

I entered marriage as a virgin with no fears.

We communicated everything and I believe that my body was ready and it just wasn't.

I still cannot insert a tampon without extreme discomfort.

Several doctors have made me feel less than for being a virgin, and they blame my inability to receive pelvic exams on my nerves.

I finally found a compassionate OB who validated what I was experiencing.

And another factor that's important is a lifetime of competitive horseback riding has created tight pelvic floor muscles, making penetration incredibly painful.

Well, then as we've gone through the process, my periods became unmanageable.

And then through two different medications, one has tanked my libido and then the other dried me up completely.

So now a hysterectomy is being talked about on the table.

I have a consultation with a surgeon this week.

So to add to this, within the first week of marriage, I was shocked to realize that my husband was not into physical intimacy as I was.

He would flat out reject me more times than I can count.

The excuses would range from I'm tired or I'm just not in the mood.

We've ruled out porn and low testosterone and it's beginning to damage.

It's beyond damaging to be rejected time and time again or to feel like he succumbs to obligatory sex.

I've done pelvic floor therapy.

I've read the books.

He read the last one with me.

We're in counseling and the rejection aspect has gotten better, but yet I don't feel like a wife.

My anniversary is in two days from the time I'm writing this and I don't look forward to celebrating it.

I feel like a broken woman.