The Real Difference Between Sexually Happy Couples and Everyone Else

[upbeat music] Have you ever had sex with someone you love, rolled over, and afterward thought, "That was nice." But somewhere in the back of your mind you're thinking, "Is this it? Is this what my sex life is going to be now for the rest of my life?" Because a lot of people are having perfectly fine sex.

It works.

Maybe someone orgasms.

No one's complaining, probably 'cause they're not talking about it, but you know the routine.

And maybe that's the problem because fine can become autopilot.

And here's the good news.

Great sex isn't luck.

You weren't born with, you know, the skills to be great at sex.

And it isn't chemistry you're supposed to magically keep alive forever, 'cause people can't do that.

That doesn't happen.

Great sex is a skill set.

So today I'm giving you a four-step reset to get out of autopilot and start having sex that actually feels good again.

We're gonna notice, name, shame, and experiment, and we're starting with the one most people skip.

I'm Dr. Emily Morris.

I have a doctorate in human sexuality, and I've hosted one of the biggest sex and relationship podcasts in the world for over 20 years.

It's called Sex With Emily.

Step one is notice, and this sounds simple, but most of us are actually pretty bad at it.

We tend to judge our sex lives by a few basic metrics.

We had sex.

Someone orgasmed.

Nobody complained.

Great.

Sex accomplished.

But that doesn't tell me very much about how the sex actually felt.

Remember, sex is a felt experience.

[upbeat music] Have you ever had sex with someone you love, rolled over, and afterward thought, "That was nice." But somewhere in the back of your mind you're thinking, "Is this it? Is this what my sex life is going to be now for the rest of my life?" Because a lot of people are having perfectly fine sex.

It works.

Maybe someone orgasms.

No one's complaining, probably 'cause they're not talking about it, but you know the routine.

And maybe that's the problem because fine can become autopilot.

And here's the good news.

Great sex isn't luck.

You weren't born with, you know, the skills to be great at sex.

And it isn't chemistry you're supposed to magically keep alive forever, 'cause people can't do that.

That doesn't happen.

Great sex is a skill set.

So today I'm giving you a four-step reset to get out of autopilot and start having sex that actually feels good again.

We're gonna notice, name, shame, and experiment, and we're starting with the one most people skip.

I'm Dr. Emily Morris.

I have a doctorate in human sexuality, and I've hosted one of the biggest sex and relationship podcasts in the world for over 20 years.

It's called Sex With Emily.

Step one is notice, and this sounds simple, but most of us are actually pretty bad at it.

We tend to judge our sex lives by a few basic metrics.

We had sex.

Someone orgasmed.

Nobody complained.

Great.

Sex accomplished.

But that doesn't tell me very much about how the sex actually felt.

Remember, sex is a felt experience.