Oct 1, 2026 · 31 min · 12 segments
Mike Leigh's *Tender Loving Care* is a film about kind and empathetic people being kind and empathetic. And how rare is that? In this episode, Alex Heeney asks what tender loving care actually looks…
Alex HeeneyHost
And it's some of those films that Tender Love and Care seems most in conversation with.
It has the warmth of Life is Sweet and the focus on female friendship and the working lives of women, of career girls.
Amy is a social worker who, in the wake of a breakup, moves back in with her best friend, Rosie, another social worker.
The film follows Amy and Rosie as they try to help people through their work, as they lean on each other for support.
And it's also about their relationship with Amy's parents, Bertie, played by Marion Bailey, and Jeff, played by Paul Jessen.
Bertie and Jeff radiate warmth toward each other and toward anyone who comes into their living room, which really reminded me of the warmth of the couple in Life is Sweet.
Jeff is in the early stages of dementia, and the film is partly about the family coming to terms with his illness and figuring out how to support him and each other through it.
Tender Love and Care also feels kind of like the antithesis of Hard Troops, Mike Lee's last film from a couple of years ago.
which I talked about on the podcast at TIFF back in 2024 if you want to scroll back and listen to it.
Hard Truths was about a woman who has been living with chronic pain and her really broken family relationships where nobody in the family knows how to communicate with each other and everyone is hurting and hurts other people.
By contrast, Tender Living Care is mostly about the people doing the care work rather than specifically about Jeff and his experience.
These are people who communicate with each other, who are kind, who listen, and yet who also have good boundaries and respect each other's boundaries.
So I want to look at what tender loving care actually looks like in this film, how the characters offer it to one another, and what it can and can't do.
And it's some of those films that Tender Love and Care seems most in conversation with.
It has the warmth of Life is Sweet and the focus on female friendship and the working lives of women, of career girls.
Amy is a social worker who, in the wake of a breakup, moves back in with her best friend, Rosie, another social worker.
The film follows Amy and Rosie as they try to help people through their work, as they lean on each other for support.
And it's also about their relationship with Amy's parents, Bertie, played by Marion Bailey, and Jeff, played by Paul Jessen.
Bertie and Jeff radiate warmth toward each other and toward anyone who comes into their living room, which really reminded me of the warmth of the couple in Life is Sweet.
Jeff is in the early stages of dementia, and the film is partly about the family coming to terms with his illness and figuring out how to support him and each other through it.
Tender Love and Care also feels kind of like the antithesis of Hard Troops, Mike Lee's last film from a couple of years ago.
which I talked about on the podcast at TIFF back in 2024 if you want to scroll back and listen to it.
Hard Truths was about a woman who has been living with chronic pain and her really broken family relationships where nobody in the family knows how to communicate with each other and everyone is hurting and hurts other people.
By contrast, Tender Living Care is mostly about the people doing the care work rather than specifically about Jeff and his experience.
These are people who communicate with each other, who are kind, who listen, and yet who also have good boundaries and respect each other's boundaries.
So I want to look at what tender loving care actually looks like in this film, how the characters offer it to one another, and what it can and can't do.
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