Systems

In life, you need a system.

Now, I observe other people, and this is something that I spoke about a lot of times.

There's people that come from a more conservative, well, maybe structured society.

It's not necessarily conservative.

They have a ratchet and Bad behavior and addiction and all kinds of stuff going on with them.

But they have a system with a certain amount of guidelines and expectations.

So you know what is expected of you.

Their shame keeping you in line because we don't really do corporal punishment anymore in the world.

They don't tar and feather and flog people or burn the tea into their hand or cut their fingers off or cut their hands off.

You know what I'm saying? They don't do that anymore.

They don't do like a physical, social punishment.

Let me create a word, physio-social mark on you to identify you as a person that's not in compliance with the order.

We don't do that anymore.

We just shame you maybe just among your family members.

But since we've kind of moved into a ruggedly individualistic lifestyle where people are fragmented and they don't live next to their family, they leave the household and they leave the community, They're not really held to a certain standard anymore.

It's a little more difficult to hold them to a social standard and use social pressures to keep them in conformance with the system when they're living separately, living independently.

That's a good thing and a bad thing depending upon your perspective.

My thing that I chime on is multi-generational households.

And I think that's a great thing because it provides that social structure.

Social structure, unfortunately, is reinforced by shame.

Like I said, in yesteryear, it was reinforced by violence.

And fortunately, we've come away from that.

Violence is almost like sacrifice, like blood sacrifice almost.

So we just use shame, right? So...