WHY HOT WOMEN HATE NICE GUYS
Oct 28, 2026 · 4 min · 5 segments
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Now, there is a known thing, nice guys finish last, women hate nice guys, women hate nice guys, blah, blah, blah.
Here's the reality, women do not hate nice men.
That's just not true.
But what we do dislike is men who lack masculinity.
Now a lot of nice guys tend to be men who also lack other masculine traits that women find attractive.
And what they do is they blame their nice nature as to why they have no success with women.
when really it has nothing to do with their niceness, but everything to do with their lack of masculinity.
And it's quicker and easier to blame it on your nice nature.
But really, if you take a man who is super, super nice, but he's still masculine, he's still risk-taking, he's still a leader, he still has boundaries, when you take a man who still has masculine traits and is nice he ends up having hyper success with women but when you take a man who's nice by default because he can't exercise his masculinity he can't say no he can't set boundaries he can't exert his dominance of course women are not going to find that attractive.
And it's just quicker and easier for a guy to say, women hate nice guys.
But if you replace that with women hate femininity, women hate people pleasers, then you're onto something.
And the reality is women, and I think it's men as well, I think nice women finish last as well.
Nice girls get treated terribly compared to difficult women.
If you look at their overall investment that they receive from a man, they get treated terribly in comparison.
Because there's something about people pleasers that turns us off.
It turns men and women off.
Because what happens when you're being nice is the difference between being nice and being a good guy is a nice guy desexualizes himself.
And how he desexualizes himself is by foregoing what he truly wants for the sake of peace and harmony.
So what he will do is a nice guy might feel uncomfortable with the situation, might not like something that's going on, might be uncomfortable, might feel distaste, whatever it is.
But because he doesn't want confrontation, he will sacrifice truth in order to gain harmony.
But what the reality is, women are attracted to something.
Now, there is a known thing, nice guys finish last, women hate nice guys, women hate nice guys, blah, blah, blah.
Here's the reality, women do not hate nice men.
That's just not true.
But what we do dislike is men who lack masculinity.
Now a lot of nice guys tend to be men who also lack other masculine traits that women find attractive.
And what they do is they blame their nice nature as to why they have no success with women.
when really it has nothing to do with their niceness, but everything to do with their lack of masculinity.
And it's quicker and easier to blame it on your nice nature.
But really, if you take a man who is super, super nice, but he's still masculine, he's still risk-taking, he's still a leader, he still has boundaries, when you take a man who still has masculine traits and is nice he ends up having hyper success with women but when you take a man who's nice by default because he can't exercise his masculinity he can't say no he can't set boundaries he can't exert his dominance of course women are not going to find that attractive.
And it's just quicker and easier for a guy to say, women hate nice guys.
But if you replace that with women hate femininity, women hate people pleasers, then you're onto something.
And the reality is women, and I think it's men as well, I think nice women finish last as well.
Nice girls get treated terribly compared to difficult women.
If you look at their overall investment that they receive from a man, they get treated terribly in comparison.
Because there's something about people pleasers that turns us off.
It turns men and women off.
Because what happens when you're being nice is the difference between being nice and being a good guy is a nice guy desexualizes himself.
And how he desexualizes himself is by foregoing what he truly wants for the sake of peace and harmony.
So what he will do is a nice guy might feel uncomfortable with the situation, might not like something that's going on, might be uncomfortable, might feel distaste, whatever it is.
But because he doesn't want confrontation, he will sacrifice truth in order to gain harmony.
But what the reality is, women are attracted to something.
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