Rewire Your Weight with Rachel Foy
May 22, 2026 · 25 min · 11 segments
This episode dives into the surprising connection between being the “good girl” or “good boy” growing up and struggles with overeating, food cravings, and feeling out of control around food. Drawing…
Um, but I did so because it's, it's just the most accurate way that I found to describe something that an enormous number of people experience, and almost nobody's really ever named it for them.
Most of us grew up in environments, whether that was family, school, religion, culture, I mean, whatever.
There's, there's, th- there's lots of things around us in, um, in our environment, but it was where being good was rewarded.
You got connection and warmth when you were easy, when you didn't have demands, when you kept your feelings, um, kind of tidy, your needs were really small.
[lips smack] It teaches them that the version of themselves that is acceptable, so it's the version that gets love and approval, is the performed version, right? It's the, quote-unquote, good version.
And everything else, so messy feelings, big emotions, the needs that sometimes felt too much, they kind of learnt to wait, so sort of pushing them to the side.
You learnt not to kind of cause conflict by saying something because you didn't want it to upset somebody else.
Think about whether you grew up being the capable one, the responsible one, the one who kept the peace, and think about whether you learnt to manage how you came across to others.
So whether you got really good at reading rooms, at making sure everyone else was okay, at swallowing things that bothered you rather than rocking the boat and causing potential conflict.
Um, but I did so because it's, it's just the most accurate way that I found to describe something that an enormous number of people experience, and almost nobody's really ever named it for them.
Most of us grew up in environments, whether that was family, school, religion, culture, I mean, whatever.
There's, there's, th- there's lots of things around us in, um, in our environment, but it was where being good was rewarded.
You got connection and warmth when you were easy, when you didn't have demands, when you kept your feelings, um, kind of tidy, your needs were really small.
[lips smack] It teaches them that the version of themselves that is acceptable, so it's the version that gets love and approval, is the performed version, right? It's the, quote-unquote, good version.
And everything else, so messy feelings, big emotions, the needs that sometimes felt too much, they kind of learnt to wait, so sort of pushing them to the side.
You learnt not to kind of cause conflict by saying something because you didn't want it to upset somebody else.
Think about whether you grew up being the capable one, the responsible one, the one who kept the peace, and think about whether you learnt to manage how you came across to others.
So whether you got really good at reading rooms, at making sure everyone else was okay, at swallowing things that bothered you rather than rocking the boat and causing potential conflict.
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