You Can’t Heal Without Safe People or Boundaries | Billy: #177

For so many people, not all, the experience of their parents' divorce came out of the blue.

It was something that surprised them.

It was something that they didn't expect.

You did actually expect your parents to get divorced.

I'm curious, why did you expect them to get divorced? And what were some of the things that led up to this breakdown of your family?

I actually talked to my brother at eight years old, and I had asked him, when are our parents going to get divorced? And so we had that conversation and, um, it was just really tense.

Our family, our parents fought all the time.

Um, very loud.

They were very prideful about the fact that they didn't fight behind closed doors, which, you know, but, um, it was just, we got to see everything and it was a lot and they fought over about a lot of things.

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That's fascinating that even that young.

So you said you were eight and your brother, how old is he? He was 10.

Okay.

So how old were you when your parents actually initiated the divorce? And yeah, what was, to whatever degree you're comfortable sharing, what led to

that? I think I was 14 when it was started and it took a little over two years and that whole process was really long and really ugly.

And we can go more into that if you want, but some of my friends were subpoenaed into court, their parents.

Um, so yes, that's

my goodness.

Let's stay there for a second.

Cause I think, you know, some people have the experience, especially post COVID I've heard where divorces are almost like whiplash fast.

And so it's like, they literally, I know a family where it like all got.

start and finalize, I think, within a month, which is kind of crazy, you know, for better, for worse, whatever the result of that might be.

But my parents went through a three-year ordeal.

So similar to yours, it was just like really messy, so expensive.

Oh my gosh, the money that was wasted is just like... shocking to think back to that.