Reclaiming Me: Heal Your Childhood Attachment Wounds, People Pleasing, and Complex PTSD for Women
Sep 23, 2026 · 12 min · 7 segments
Monday's episode named three patterns a lot of listeners recognized in themselves. Today: one tool that works for all three. Underneath drifting away, needing proof, and comparing your present to…
Okay, number one, I would like for you to choose your anchors ahead of time when you are calm and not in the moment that you need them.
I always, always, always tell my clients this, especially if I'm working with a younger client and the parents are like, I don't know how to help my child when they're melting down in the moment or they freeze in the moment.
And my answer to that is, well, we really can't do a whole lot in the moment, right? We have to front load it.
We have to talk about these things and prepare for these things when our prefrontal cortex of our brain is online.
But let's be honest, when we are in situations that trigger old wounds, The CEO leaves the room and the amygdala is taking over at that point.
So it kind of hijacks it and then we're in self-preservation and protection mode.
Okay, number one, I would like for you to choose your anchors ahead of time when you are calm and not in the moment that you need them.
I always, always, always tell my clients this, especially if I'm working with a younger client and the parents are like, I don't know how to help my child when they're melting down in the moment or they freeze in the moment.
And my answer to that is, well, we really can't do a whole lot in the moment, right? We have to front load it.
We have to talk about these things and prepare for these things when our prefrontal cortex of our brain is online.
But let's be honest, when we are in situations that trigger old wounds, The CEO leaves the room and the amygdala is taking over at that point.
So it kind of hijacks it and then we're in self-preservation and protection mode.
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