Change

But I think a lot of people, um, feel stuck in the same pattern year after year, the same anxiety, the same avoidance, the same depression, the same self-doubt.

And, um, I, I don't think it's about laziness.

Um, it's not lack of intelligence.

It's...

I don't even think it's really lack of em- emotion.

Uh, I think most self-improvement in- advice is based on a false premise or false assumption that, that change, it, it has to happen at, at the behavioral level, and my perspective is, uh, I, I don't think that's necessarily true.

Because real growth, you know, human developmental growth from a, a psychological improvement standpoint, I think it really happens at the level of, of, of, um, identity, our identity, uh, emotions, and meaning.

And I think that's why a lot of popular pop psychology self-help stuff, it, it, it fails, because it treats, it treats the mind like a machine instead of, um, a nervous system that's shaped by experiences, by fear, by attachment, um, by survival.

And a lot of these, you know, 12 steps to finding happiness, and 15 ways to make your...

You know, find work-life balance, and again, that, that's a very mechanical algorithmic methodology.

But when you're talking more about identity, emotion, and meaning, that kinda gets to the core of our humanity.

And I think we've been sold, uh, the idea that if, that if we just optimize harder, that if we just work ha- work harder, wake up earlier, exercise more, think more positively, discipline ourselves more, change our diet, eat this, go to bed early, that we're finally gonna become who we think we're, we're supposed to be.