Sep 23, 2026 · 36 min · 11 segments
Letting go of your old self isn’t easy—but it’s necessary for growth. In this episode, we break down the real-life process of becoming who you’re meant to be, and why it's worth every tough moment…
Before we can talk about letting go, we have to acknowledge what we are actually letting go of because I think we skipped that part.
We want to jump straight into freedom without sitting with the weight of what we're releasing.
So let's just go ahead and start there.
For me, I think the story starts with people pleasing.
I spent probably most of my early 20s just adapting, adapting to my circle, to what they were doing, how they were acting, what they were saying.
And it wasn't because I was weak.
It was just because I wanted to be long.
I just wanted to fit in.
And before I knew it, I was doing things that I would not have chosen to do on my own.
I was going out every night and I was spending money that I didn't have, chasing this version of fun that was actually just really pulling me down.
And so then in my mid-20s, I started to shed a little bit of that.
I started letting go of that version of me.
And I got certified as a leadership coach.
I started speaking and mentoring and really just like up-leveling, right? And then there was judgment that came like that from people who had known like the party version of me.
And they were just not like prepared for this new Lauren.
They weren't ready for it.
And you would think that like growth would be celebrated.
You think like everyone would be excited that you're doing well, that you're like becoming a little bit more successful.
No, that's not always the truth.
It's not always the case.
And sometimes it just plain out makes people uncomfortable.
And then their discomfort gets aimed at you.
So then like in my early 30s, I lost my dad.
And then that loss cracked me open to a much deeper faith that I had ever had before.
Before we can talk about letting go, we have to acknowledge what we are actually letting go of because I think we skipped that part.
We want to jump straight into freedom without sitting with the weight of what we're releasing.
So let's just go ahead and start there.
For me, I think the story starts with people pleasing.
I spent probably most of my early 20s just adapting, adapting to my circle, to what they were doing, how they were acting, what they were saying.
And it wasn't because I was weak.
It was just because I wanted to be long.
I just wanted to fit in.
And before I knew it, I was doing things that I would not have chosen to do on my own.
I was going out every night and I was spending money that I didn't have, chasing this version of fun that was actually just really pulling me down.
And so then in my mid-20s, I started to shed a little bit of that.
I started letting go of that version of me.
And I got certified as a leadership coach.
I started speaking and mentoring and really just like up-leveling, right? And then there was judgment that came like that from people who had known like the party version of me.
And they were just not like prepared for this new Lauren.
They weren't ready for it.
And you would think that like growth would be celebrated.
You think like everyone would be excited that you're doing well, that you're like becoming a little bit more successful.
No, that's not always the truth.
It's not always the case.
And sometimes it just plain out makes people uncomfortable.
And then their discomfort gets aimed at you.
So then like in my early 30s, I lost my dad.
And then that loss cracked me open to a much deeper faith that I had ever had before.
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