5: 5 Things I Wish More Women Knew About Having Second Thoughts

Have you ever looked at something you once wanted so badly and wondered why it no longer feels like a prize? Maybe it is the career path, the title, the relationship, the role, the goal, or the version of success you spent years working toward. You may still be grateful for it. You may still be proud of what it took to get there. But something in you starts asking whether it still fits, and suddenly that second thought comes with guilt. Am I being selfish? Am I being flaky? Did I waste all that time, money, energy, and effort? In this solo episode of On Second Thought, I'm talking about the permission slips I wish more women had when they start wanting something different. I get into why growth can change what you want, why a second thought can be information instead of failure, and why outgrowing an old dream does not mean the old version of you was wrong. I also talk about the goals I used to think were the prize, the choices that helped me get here, the fear of making a decision that feels permanent, and what it means to become someone new without abandoning who you were. What's Discussed: (01:37) Why giving yourself permission to change your mind can feel so hard. (02:00) Why we say we want growth, then shame ourselves when growth starts shifting what we want. (03:32) How a second thought can be information instead of something to fear. (06:16) Why you are allowed to outgrow what you once wanted. (08:36) Why changing your mind does not erase your progress. (12:47) Why you are allowed to want what actually feels true to you, not what you think you should want. (21:42) Why becoming someone new does not mean abandoning who you were. Listen to This Episode If You've Been Thinking "I worked so hard for this, so why does it not feel like the prize anymore?" "Am I allowed to change my mind after everything I invested?" "What if wanting something different does not mean I failed?" "What would I explore if I knew it did not have to be permanent?" "Can I become someone new without rejecting who I used to be?"   Learn more about Jac Pfeifer: Instagram: @officially.jac